After a recent experience, my mind is made up: chivalry is dead. Love and dating and relationships have never been a priority of mine. Don't get me wrong, I've always wanted to have relationships or be dating a guy, but I figured if something were meant to happen it would happen. I wasn't going to go looking for it, I have a life to build for myself, having someone special to share in all that with me would just be a perk.

Men and women alike suddenly decided they want to "get to know" somebody just based on their physical appearance. I could have the most beautiful face and the ugliest personality, the "ugliest" face and the most beautiful personality and vice versa. A person is a person and their worth to you or to anyone should not be determined by their appearance, but their skill set and personality are what should be appreciated. After all, sex is primarily a form of reproduction, not just for pleasure.

So, shouldn't you be looking for someone who would help further your intelligence, introduce you to new and exciting things, has goals and aspirations instead of looking for one or many nights of fun? I don't really see any reward to this and I feel that the hookup culture is creating a world where love is fading. You love a person's soul, not their appearances. Appearances change over time, but that person you fell in love with will hopefully still be there over time. If sex is what is most important to you, understand that it comes with time in relationships. I will admit sometimes relationships blossom out of a hook up, but I personally would rather know a person and want to be with them before taking that step.

I understand not wanting to get hurt. Love is a risk but it is worth it. I understand having relations with multiple people may make you feel loved, attractive, but it will leave you missing something. How can one feel nothing for someone that handles their body in such an intimate way? As a women I believe sex has meaning more than just pleasure. It can create a life and create that life inside of me. If I'm going to create a child with someone, I'd prefer it to be with a man who's name I can remember and someone I can rely on. I do not condemn anyone who believes differently, I believe you should live your life how you want to, but my opinion and belief stands strong about the hookup culture: it's just a waste of time.