The hookup culture is a huge part of our generation. No strings attached, no commitment, and just fun. I have never been a fan of hookups, but I can understand why people might like them.
However, I have noticed that the hookup culture is negative in more ways than positive. Males and females don't know what an actual "date" is. Feelings come after physical attraction. You can be hooking up with the same guy for months and still not know "what" you guys are.You can be with a girl for weeks and still know absolutely nothing about her. For some, that is fine--but for many it is confusing and draining. Not knowing where you stand with someone is frustrating and it can consume you.
Both females and males think it is okay to play each other. You wait for a text back from "bae" and they don't respond. The next time they text you, you don't respond. Texting screws up the meaning of words, as well. It becomes a game, which is not healthy. A simple phone call can accomplish way more than a text, but our generation is afraid of being too forward like that.
The hookup culture leaves people to be afraid of commitment. When that person you really like comes along, you are afraid to make them yours. You are afraid to make it official because then it all becomes real and there is more of a loss if things do not work out. Our generation is terrified of getting attached to someone because of the fear they will eventually leave us. We also don't want to be tied down to someone, we like to keep our options open. That is okay in a sense, but you can't pass up someone special just in case something "better" comes along. Ask yourself why you like someone, if they make you smile more than cry, if they are supportive and truthful, etc..
Not many good things come out of a hookup. You may feel slimy and regret it the next day. You may not regret it, but nothing positive came out of it except pleasure at the time. Sometimes you feel like you just want to curl up in a ball forever.
Hookups get in the way of true friendships and relationships. Friends who have hooked up feel awkward. If you actually want to make new friends, people can mis-judge that as "coming on" to them. It is all just so negative.
I'm not saying that hookups are always bad or always end up in a loss, but on average nothing great comes out of them. All I ask of our generation is that we try to get to know someone before hooking up. This can lead to better communication and less regrets. Getting hurt in the romance field really sucks, but you ultimately learn from it. Stop being afraid of people leaving, instead be excited for the future. Don't dwell on your bad luck in love.
