The Value Of Honesty

The Value Of Honesty

We convince ourselves that lies are easier, but honesty really is the best policy
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We all would like to believe that we are honest people and that we value other honest people; yet the minute we get into a sticky situation where it would be easier to lie, we lie. Somewhere along the line, we have come to believe that dishonesty is the easy way out. We tell ourselves that we are saving someone's feelings. We tell ourselves that they will never forgive us if we tell them the truth. But the honest truth is that most of us would prefer the truth to most of the white lies we tell.

When did we decide that lying is easier? Because it really isn't. First of all, you have to come up with a lie that you think is both believable and better than the truth. And then you often have to tell more lies to cover up that one seemingly small lie. You probably already knew that would happen because your mom told you not to lie way back when you were in kindergarten; but somewhere along the line, we forgot that important life lesson.

One of our favorite justifications for lying is that it would hurt them if we told them the truth. But how often are we trying to protect ourselves and not them? Lying is ultimately selfish and it usually does more harm than good. Sure, sometimes we can't tell the whole truth, but most of the time we are held back from honesty by our own fear and selfishness. Relationships built on honesty are so important. How can you ever be trusted as a friend if all you do is lie? It doesn't matter if you have the best of intentions; dishonesty breaks down the trust in a relationship.

I will be the first to admit that I lie all the time when it's not needed because it seems more convenient in the moment. But I know that I need to remind myself that there is nothing more convenient about lying; it's just selfish. Yeah, sometimes the truth can hurt, but to twist the meaning of a "Lion King" quote, you can either run from it or learn from it. We spend so much of our times looking for the truth in our lives and in the world, yet there is absolutely no hope in finding that truth unless we can be honest. We need to be honest with ourselves and honest with those around us. Honestly, I am a flawed person and I make a lot of mistakes. And it is only when I can own up to my mistakes that I am able to learn from them and to grow.

Be honest because you love your friends and family and you don't want to live with relationships based on patterns of dishonesty. Be honest because you love yourself and you want to grow. Honesty can be scary and it can be hard, but it is better to grow from a world of difficulty than to live in a world of imaginary perfection.

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6 Things You Should Know About The Woman Who Can't Stand Modern Feminism

Yes, she wants to be heard too.

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2018 is sort of a trap for this woman. She believes in women with all of the fire inside of her, but it is hard for her to offer support when people are making fools of themselves and disguising it as feminism.

The fact of the matter is that women possess qualities that men don't and men possess qualities that women don't. That is natural. Plus, no one sees men parading the streets in penis costumes complaining that they don't get to carry their own fetus for nine months.

1. She really loves and values women.

She is incredibly proud to be a woman.

She knows the amount of power than a woman's presence alone can hold. She sees when a woman walks into a room and makes the whole place light up. She begs that you won't make her feel like a "lady hater" because she doesn't want to follow a trend that she doesn't agree with.

2. She wants equality, too

She has seen the fundamental issues in the corporate world, where women and men are not receiving equal pay.

She doesn't cheer on the businesses that don't see women and men as equivalents. But she does recognize that if she works her butt off, she can be as successful as she wants to.

3. She wears a bra.

While she knows the "I don't have to wear a bra for society" trend isn't a new one, but she doesn't quite get it. Like maybe she wants to wear a bra because it makes her feel better. Maybe she wears a bra because it is the normal things to do... And that's OK.

Maybe she wants to put wear a lacy bra and pretty makeup to feel girly on .a date night. She is confused by the women who claim to be "fighting for women," because sometimes they make her feel bad for expressing her ladyhood in a different way than them.

4. She hates creeps just as much as you do. .

Just because she isn't a feminist does not mean that she is cool with the gruesome reality that 1 in 5 women are sexually abused.

In fact, this makes her stomach turn inside out to think about. She knows and loves people who have been through such a tragedy and wants to put the terrible, creepy, sexually charged criminals behind bars just as bad as the next woman.

Remember that just because she isn't a feminist doesn't mean she thinks awful men can do whatever they want.

5. There is a reason she is ashamed of 2018's version of feminism.

She looks at women in history who have made a difference and is miserably blown away by modern feminism's performance.

Not only have women in the past won themselves the right to vote, but also the right to buy birth control and have credit cards in their names and EVEN saw marital rape become a criminal offense.

None of them dressed in vagina costumes to win anyone over though... Crazy, right?

6. She isn't going to dress in a lady parts costume to prove a point.

This leaves her speechless. It is like the women around her have absolutely lost their minds and their agendas, only lessening their own credibility.

"Mom, what are those ladies on TV dressed up as?"

"Ummm... it looks to me like they are pink taco's honey."

She loves who she is and she cherished what makes her different from the men around her. She doesn't want to compromise who she is as a woman just so she can be "equal with men."

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If You Voted to Take My Rights Away This Election, Block Me

I am an American just as you but I do not have time to be friends with Republicans.

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You might find this harsh but…

I don't want to be friends with anyone who voted Republican this election.

What about friendship despite the odds? What about coexistence and tolerance? Why does it matter?

If you cannot support my rights as a woman, or my rights as a person of color, or my rights as a human being, I do not want to be your friend. If you do not support trans rights, reproductive rights, and #BlackLivesMatter, I do not want to be your friend. If you do not want to support Native Americans and indigenous peoples, if you do not want to support asylum seekers, if you do not want to support immigration, I do not want to be your friend.

I owe you nothing.

I know that this seems harsh, but if you sided with Donald Trump in the previous election, voted for Brian Kemp -a literal criminal- I do not owe you a single ounce of my energy.

Brian Kemp? A criminal, you say?

Voter suppression is an illegal act. Destroying ballots is an illegal act. Not sending power cords and broken machines to polling locations? Probably should be illegal.

This is not just because of a party difference, but I genuinely believe that we were cut from different cloths, raised differently, and have a different worldview.

I do not want to spend my time arguing with you. I do not want to spend my time telling you why I deserve rights. I do not want to spend time telling you why my brown brothers and sisters deserve rights. I do not want to tell you why my sisters of all shapes and sizes and colors should have bodily autonomy and the right to live freely. These things should be inherent.

I have spent so much time in my short life telling people that I deserve to be treated as any other human person that I am burned out. It is not my responsibility for me to make you "woke". Read some literature. Get woke.

I could care less if you voted Libertarian or Green Party or Democratic. I do not have it in me to argue with you on that, because you are entitled to vote however you choose -but the moment your party and your vote steps on my rights, I am not here to play nice.

My civil rights are not yours to take.

This midterm election is so important for many reasons. I did not wake up at 5:30 today with an alarm, rather, my body woke me up and let me know that today is a day of history.

So I extend my congratulations to all the new-elects. Many women of color today made history. I cannot wait to hear the results in Georgia, my home, and hopefully soon, the home of the first African American female governor of Georgia.

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