His perfectly sculpted body is a constant reminder that you should probably get your ass back to the gym. And we can add that to the list of all of his other perfections. His lips, his gaze, his face, his smile, they’re all just so… perfect. His eyes see right through the wall you’ve put up to protect yourself from guys like him. And they are filled with so much wisdom, emotion, and experience. And you can see his heart, too. When you look into someone’s eyes you can see what’s in their heart, and his heart, oh his heart, he has a heart of gold, I just see it.

His nose is slightly crooked but that’s what gives him his charm. And his lips are soft to the touch but just as powerful and passionate as he is. His body looks like a perfectly carved out Greek god sculpture and makes you feel safe and secure. And his body makes your body quiver. He wears the right cologne, not too strong but just strong enough to give you the chills when he gets closer. He’s just such a man.

He knows just what to say and when to say it. Everyone is drawn to him because of his subtle charisma. See, he’s so confident that he doesn’t need to be the center of attention to feel good about himself. He just does his thing so gracefully and effortlessly, and people gravitate towards him. He has this subtle charm and wittiness. He makes people feel good about themselves and that’s why so many people are drawn to him. He’s happy and he makes people happy. He likes people and people like him, that’s just the way things are.

On top of everything, he also happens to be very intelligent. He can talk to you about anything and you’ll find the conversation satisfying and stimulating. He has a few degrees under his belt and a great career. But more importantly, he’s a gentleman and genuinely a good person. He treats women with respect and kindness. He’s a giver- he enjoys pleasing others and taking care of people.

So at this point you might be wondering, why is the title of this article “He’s Not That Great, I Promise,” because so far he sounds pretty damn great, well, let me tell you why he’s not. Despite being seemingly flawless, he sucks. What you’re experiencing with him is not “love” or the beginnings of it; it’s just him knowing how to navigate people. The same way his flirty comments make you swoon, other girls do as well. He’s well aware of his talents, and uses them on girl, after girl, after girl, after girl, after girl. And every girl, just like you, is enthralled by him. You don’t have some special connection or chemistry with him, he has that with everyone. He just knows how to get into people’s hearts, but don’t let it be yours because he will break it and tear it apart.

There’s a reason that a majority of the comments and likes of photos on his social media pages are all girls. And when he comments on your picture saying, “wow, you’re so beautiful my lovely,” or something a little less creepy but along those lines, you’re one of another 50 girls that he’s saying the same things to. As much as I hate using labels, this, my friends, is called a player.

He can be the nicest, hottest, and sweetest guy you’ve ever met. But don’t be fooled by his charm, he doesn’t care about you. You’re just another notch on his belt. Don’t think you’re special or that everything he’s saying to you is real or matters, because even if the sweet things he’s saying are genuine, he genuinely means those things when he says them to the other 50 girls he’s talking to also.

Don’t take him or anything he says seriously, because as great as he is, he still sucks. And what’s funny is that he doesn’t even do this on purpose, it’s just how he is, it’s who he is, it’s hardwired in him. Whether you’re just getting to know each other, or dating, or married, he will always have that at his core, and you’ll always have to worry about him and his interactions with other women. So please, just because he seems great and was one of the only guys who was confident enough to walk up to you, wake up and smell the coffee, because this guy is bad news. And just remember, even though based on your couple of interactions and amazing Facebook-stalking skills he seems perfect, he’s probably not as great as he seems.

So do yourself a favor, ditch the player and spend your time with a guy that isn’t wooing thousands of girls. You’ll thank yourself down the road.