Everyone knows someone who does everything for their significant other and literally they revolve around the other person, and personally as a friend of many girls like this, a time has come to put yourself first. Now I am not saying that you can’t do things for him/her or that you shouldn’t be spending a lot of time with them but when it comes to the point that all you do is spend time with them or spend time talking about them, enough is enough. I am just like all of you girls I would love to have that perfect relationship that we all long for, but I am not willing to let go of my independence to have that and no one should. I am lucky enough to have been raised with the mindset that I don’t need a man and that I can be on my own and be perfectly happy and all I hope is that some girl out there can realize that she deserves better.
You should never be on the “back burner”
Your life should never be less important than his. Your goals, wants, and needs should be just as important as his even though you may just want to be "nice" to him but there is a point where maybe you are doing too much. If you are one of the girls that is constantly doing everything for him, he is completely taking advantage of you. You should never be put on the "back burner" of his life, if he is not willing to put you ahead of at least somethings in his life then he is probably just not worth your time anymore.
You should not have to settle
We all know that as a woman we feel like it is necessary for all of us to be in relationships, we see them all around us especially those of you who are college aged because know what it’s like to see everyone around you getting engaged or in serious relationships. Ladies, do not feel the need to rush and settle for someone who may or may not be right for you. You should never have to settle in your life whether it is with your relationship, your goals, or your dreams. Never settle for less than you deserve.
You deserve to be appreciated
When I say that you deserve this I don’t mean that you are better than him or that you deserve to have more than him but I mean that you should be treated kindly. You deserve to have a man that will appreciate all the things you do for him. He should be thankful to you for even the little things. You deserve to feel as though someone appreciates you and the things you do for them. Don’t you want to feel good about yourself again!
You should know who you are without him
Find yourself, take the time to know who you are without him. You should know what it is like to be single and who you really are at your core. Take the time to find yourself to know your own mind and heart. It is so hard for me to see all these girls out there who don’t know how to be single or alone. I know that it is hard to be single or alone but it has given me every opportunity to know who I am. Every woman should have that chance to find themselves.
Your needs should be just as important as his
Everybody has needs but just because he is someone you care about doesn’t mean you should throw away your needs. You have the right to feel like you are being satisfied and that every need you have is fulfilled and that you get to be happy. Don’t let his needs overshadow yours ever.
You have a right to follow your dreams
Follow your dreams no matter where they take you. Don’t let the love for a man keep you from doing what you aspire to do or keep you from being who you aspire to be. You have just as much of right to go after everything you want out of life and to never let him keep you from reaching your own goals.
You have to value yourself
Only you can have true value for yourself, only you control how you see yourself. At the end of the day that is all you have is yourself to show true value and worth. You have value and you deserve to know your own worth and be happy. Don’t let a man take that from you, ever.
