Finally, you think to yourself as you meet the seemingly most amazing person in the world; he has everything you could ever want.Attractive, fit, great smile, outgoing; he gives you butterflies in your belly and you’re beyond thrilled by the thought of something new.
As you get to know more about him, you’re pulled in even deeper.He’s intelligent, motivated, charismatic, gentle, affectionate, and makes you feel like you can finally be yourself around someone without being judged.
He was someone you could trust, someone you could open up to about the darkest and most troubling moments of your life.He listened, he seemed to care.He made you feel like you actually had someone to count on if you needed a shoulder to lean on.
And that next day, he was gone.
Not a word, not a text, not a missed call.Nothing.He walked out of your life just as easily as he had invited himself in, only to leave you wondering what ever happened.
You question yourself, asking what you did wrong.You ponder if he found someone better, probably, right?You analyze every moment you ever shared with him and look for something to blame yourself with.You convince yourself that you are truly unlovable.
But this time, it’s not you.It’s him.The guy who you thought had it all, doesn’t have a single quality that every woman deserves.
He doesn’t know how to call you, text you, or assure you in any way you actually matter and cross his mind.Maybe he’s self-absorbed and only cares about himself, maybe he just has way too many options and doesn’t know how to recognize the best ones.It’s okay, though.Letting him go only opens your door for letting in the ones who want to hear from you, and look forward to it.
He doesn’t understand your needs, and he doesn’t want to.Any guy who thinks a girl, who may have even the slightest interest in him, just wants a relationship right off the bat, is completely immature to needs.He doesn’t understand that you just want someone to spend time with, he doesn’t understand that you just want someone to be close to.In fact, that’s exactly what he doesn’t want.He doesn’t want to fulfill your needs because for him, that’s a commitment, and commitment means less time for him to focus on himself.
He doesn’t want to be there for you, he just likes to make it seem that way.What woman would pass up the possibility of being with a guy who seems to be open and in-touch with emotions?Everyone goes through them, so a guy to support you through them is a dream come true.And he knows that.He thrives off of making you feel like you can be open to him, sharing your vulnerable side with him.It gives him power over you, knowing your insecurities and pains.Don’t think that because he makes you feel special for a moment, he isn’t making other girls feel special for moments either.It hurts, thinking you’re just another option among many, but now that you know, kick him to the curb because you are worth it.
Most importantly, however, he doesn’t give you his word.Or, he does, it’s just not reliable.He talks with a natural future tense, always coming up with ideas and possibilities for the two of you, yet they’re blank.There is no sincerity behind those expressions, nothing you can count on.He is reckless.He is walking false hope and there is nothing that your pure, kind heart can do to change it.He is someone that could break you, rather than grow with you.
The next time you meet a guy, no matter how many wonderful qualities he may have, don’t forget to check the warning signs either.It should always be quality over quantity, and the number one quality that you deserve, is a man who wants to talk to you, wants to spend time with you, and wants to make sure you know that you are actually someone special, not just another girl in his parade for need of desperate attention.And when you’ve gained interest for this kind of individual, kick him to the side, because chances are, you’re already on the side to him.
