Having The Best Of Both Worlds In College

Having The Best Of Both Worlds In College

I think I’m more of a “res-muter” actually…

Several months ago, although it seems way longer, I was researching which college would fit me best and considering the importance of my preferences when filling out questionnaires on collegeboard.org, naviance.com, and a few other sites. It was quite difficult for me to think about what was most important and I stressed over this way too much. I wound up applying to a variety of schools: large, medium, small, far, near, the whole nine yards. After it all, I decided to attend the smallest and the closest one. I chose a school that is only 30 minutes away from home, and I could not be happier.

Since I live on campus, I am independent, but since I am still so close to home, I can drive home whenever I please. This is especially important for when I don’t want to eat a single thing being offered or pizza for the third time in a week, so I go home for my mom’s cooking. I have yet to use all of my meal swipes for each week and this is because of my intense schedule, road trips for volleyball, my strong desire for a big hug from my parents, an argument or two with my younger brothers, and a slobbery kiss from my dog.

Being a “res-muter”, aka a resident-commuter, definitely has its perks. I can hang out with my new college friends, relax in my room without my mom asking me to do chores or my brother bothering me for homework help. If I am feeling stressed or overwhelmed though, I drive home. Even with my family’s occasional yelling and excitement over football games, my house is still quieter than my school. At college, there is continuous noise and doors shutting, and someone who seems to play the same six damn songs over and over and over again. I go to sleep and hear the songs, I wake up and hear the songs...I come back from class and still hear the songs! So, it is nice to go home and do homework once in awhile. But on the flip side, I am not being told by my parents to go to bed, to be quiet, or to get off of the phone because it’s three in the morning, so I can’t really complain. I can stay up with my friends and sit in the lounge on my laptop, play cards, and eat snacks. I enjoy this freedom.

There are some ups and downs of college, as with anything else in life, but my college experience is turning out to be great. I am enjoying having the best of both worlds. My boyfriend and a few of my friends have been able to drive to Morristown to meet me for lunch and I am grateful for this. I am glad to still be connected with my family and friends from home, but also have the opportunity to meet some really cool and friendly people at school. I feel that if I were a commuter, I would struggle with making friends and participating in events because I would want to go home after finishing class. As a resident, I am in the middle of it all and constantly see signs in the halls, bathroom stalls, and elevators about upcoming events. I have friends who ask me to go with them to events because, why not? And I am grateful for them in my new world.
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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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Why You Should Bring Your Close Friend As Your Formal Date

Before asking that cute girl to formal think about asking a friend


Every year since I was a junior in high school I have always looked forward to homecoming or prom. When I got to college I began to look forward to my fraternity formal. I was never concerned with what to wear or the expense of formal but rather who I was going to ask. It can be difficult to make a decision. If you ask anyone friends with me they will tell you how I am one of the most indecisive people out there. There are so many people I am friendly with or have a close relationship that it can feel difficult to make a decision. But let's look at that phrase again. You might think why does he want to bring someone who is his friend to his fraternity formal rather than someone he likes or is dating. To answer this question, some of the girls I have liked I have not been able to be the true me around and that also applies to the girls I have dated as well. I am different around my friends and I want someone to know the real me rather than me just having to pretend.

Maybe I am still experiencing the effects of a fun weekend but I have noticed that every formal or prom that I have brought a date with not only was a fun formal but interacted and connected well with my friends. That is the main thing I look for in a formal date, they need to be liked by my friends and many of them are still pretty friendly after the formal. You are spending the weekend with them and the drive down for you formal. There will be a lot of time spent with your date so it is important to bring someone you know you will have fun with. I am not saying that there isn't anything wrong with bringing someone else but I always found it best to bring a friend if you are not dating someone.

Think about the people you know you will always have fun with. This can be an indication of who you should bring and why but you should also think about the positives in this situation. Your fun and the time spent with the people should be prioritized before anything else. This event is about you and you should have someone with you that you know is fun to be around and someone you can enjoy yourself around along with your friends. Friends know you as well as you know yourself so there is not an idea of having to pretend to be someone else. The good thing about friends is that you do not run out of things to talk about and there is always something new to learn. Take your formal as a trip that you get to experience with the people closest to you. That is my take.

The key for me is to know that I will have fun with my date at formal. The drive to formal can be long and you are sharing a hotel room with your date along with spending time with them during the trip. I talk a lot. I want someone I know who I can carry a conversation with and will not just respond with words such as Yeah or Sounds good. I have always been able to remember not only my formals but specific parts of it as well. I think this is possible because of who I have brought and the memories I made with them.

Formals are important to everyone so think about who you want to spend that moment with. There is nothing wrong with bringing someone who you like but there also is nothing wrong with bringing a friend. Some people might bring someone they are dating but you should not have to compare yourself to other people. Do what makes you happy but remember this weekend is about you and you deserve to bring someone you will have fun with.

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