In my 18 years of living, I have never had a serious boyfriend.
No, that one guy I dated back in eighth grade for 48 hours does not count. I don’t say that to put myself down because I don’t think I’m so-called “unattractive,” but I definitely don’t think I’m the type of girl a guy eyes from across the room either. I don’t say that I’ve never had a boyfriend to make myself out to be a “slut” or a “whore” because I’m certainly not either of those. So why haven’t I dated anyone?
Most of my friends have been in at least one serious relationship throughout high school. Am I just unapproachable?
I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m just not meant to be part of this era when it comes to dating and relationships. Every guy I’ve been into either is just looking to fool around or just isn’t interested in having a girlfriend.
Well here’s news for you pal: I’m not interested in wasting my time.
I’m not looking to go home with a random guy I met at the bar whose name I don't even know every weekend in college.
I don’t want to be and am not that girl.
Most freshmen in college aren’t ready for something serious, but here I am anyway hoping the right guy is going to come along. I don’t want to be worried about having the boy I’m seeing see other girls. I don’t want to have to share. I also don't want any diseases, so I’ll pass on that one. Maybe next time.
What happened to asking for a phone number?
Now people just ask for your Snapchat.
Very minimal conversation ever comes about through Snapchat. And even if it does, who wants to say they got asked on a first date through Snapchat DM? The idea of getting to know someone personally before you get to know someone has vanished into thin air.
I don’t want to be a “thing” with someone.
I don’t want to say, “Oh, we never dated. We just talked.” I’m over those days, so why isn’t everyone else? I want something real and genuine. Someone who comes to my door when they’re picking me up for a “date.” Someone who takes me on a real date, and doesn’t just expect to Netflix and chill. Someone who calls me theirs and means it. Someone who doesn’t call me every other night when they're drunk and alone. This hookup culture doesn’t suit me. I’m too emotional and sensitive to act like I’m not hurt that you aren’t texting me back for three days. I’m too independent to depend on someone who is only there when it’s convenient. I’m too stressed to be stressed about hooking up with a guy and wondering what it is or isn’t going to lead to this time.
There is nothing wrong with hating just hooking up.
You are not crazy, emotional, or clingy if you catch feelings, or if you don’t want to allow yourself to get that far. Don’t ever let anyone make you think that. This generation has taught us to think it's normal to have sex with someone and keep it 100 percent “no strings attached.”
As we know, even Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman couldn’t pull that one off.
