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I Hate That I Love You

Don't Let Break Ups Get You Down

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Have you ever been in love? Have you ever been with someone that every time you look at them you can't help but smile? They just have that special something that you just can't resist. You love them with all your heart. To you, everything they do is perfect. Now, have you ever been heartbroken? One day your life it perfect and nothing could come between you and that special person and the next day your whole world comes crashing down because they don't love you anymore or they can't handle it anymore. Everyone goes through heartbreaks whether it's breaking up a relationship or even a death in the family, heartbreaks hurt and sometimes you wonder if you can make it through life without that person. It may be hard at first, but I believe you can do it!

When you get your heartbroken it feels like all of those butterflies you had in your stomach when you were with that person just die. The fluttering stops and you just feel sick. What can I do to get you back? I'll do anything! We all go through this when it comes to a break up, especially when you truly love that person. Sometimes, love just fades. Maybe it wasn't all your fault, maybe it was them. The truth is, sometimes people just lose feelings, and there's just nothing you can really do about it. The truth is, when you're head over heals in love with them and give them your all, they're only giving you half of theirs. It hurts, it sucks, but it's okay to cry. Cry all you want. It's okay! Just don't give up! When you're done crying, wipe your face off, take a shower, dress up real cute and go out and have fun!

After a break up, your friends become your number 1 support group. Don't just sole up and keep to yourself, that could actually hurt you more. Dress up real nice, go out and have fun! Show your ex that you can't be broken and you can do life without them. If they care, maybe they'll come back, if they don’t, then they never loved you the way you loved them. If they truly loved you, they wouldn't want to do life without you, and they definitely wouldn't hurt you the way they did.

Whatever you do, when you're done having fun with your friends, don't go home and call or text them! Just leave them alone! If they want to talk or work it out, then they'll call you, but if you call them it just shows them that you need them. You don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend to make you happy, especially when you have amazing friends that will do anything to get you out of your house. Only time can tell if they truly meant what they said or if they just needed some space to figure out if they’re really ready to settle down. Sometimes it just takes time.

While your ex is in their head trying to figure out what they want, you should go out and take advantage of this time and take care of yourself. Go do something that you couldn't ever do with them. Go meet new people, maybe just go on a couple dates. Maybe your ex just wants to start over. Maybe after giving them some space they decide they want to just start over and just go on a couple dates and get to know each other again. Because sometimes you lose who the other person is when you're in a long term relationship. Everything just becomes a routine, and you forget to ask how their day was or if anything has changed in their life. Sometimes you lose that personal feel. Sometimes you just need space and a fresh start to get that back. You might even find out that you're not meant to be together after all and you don't even have anything in common, but you never know until you try. That's the whole point in dating. To just get to know the other person.

No matter the reason you're heartbroken, the most important thing to remember is to not give up. You're strong, I know it sucks now, but once you get out and get your mind off of everything, you'll feel 1000 times better. Get out, meet new people, but I promise, you'll fall in love again. Maybe it's with that person again or maybe it's with someone totally new, but you won't figure that out if you just sit in your room and dwell on it all day. Show your ex you can do life without them. Either they'll care and come back because they want to have fun with you, or they just won't care. Just remember it's okay to cry, but don't dwell on it too much, you might miss out on an amazing opportunity.

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