So I'm just going to take a shot in the dark and guess what type of girl you are:
You’ve made pretty good grades your whole life, you don’t think so, but let’s be honest here, that one C and a few B’s your whole life aren’t that devastating. You’re probably in a few different organizations, you have a job (maybe two, or three). 85% of the people you know would say that your biggest flaw is that you’re too hard on yourself. You don’t think you are because you see nothing wrong with a little self-perseverance. You push yourself because you have incredibly high goals. I mean, what’s wrong with that? However, sometimes your goals scare you. Sometimes you think you aren’t smart enough, you aren’t brave enough, you aren’t tough enough. The world hasn’t made it easy on you and sometimes you let the negativity creep in. And you think that you have to pile on this crap on your plate to keep people happy and to keep you busy. You think that all this work that you’re doing has got to get you somewhere. That’s how it works right? Work your ass off and one day it’ll all pay off, right?
Wrong. This article is for you, the talented. The hard working, driven, goal-oriented ladies. The ladies that can’t turn someone down, can’t walk away when things get hard, and will never give up.
I’m here to tell you the one of the most important lessons I’ve learned in my young life: IT IS OKAY TO SAY NO.
People love you – and you love that. You have an amazing heart and you just love to love. I always thought that if I turned people down, if I didn’t help everyone, people would stop loving me. I was so afraid that if I wasn’t the best, if I didn’t give everything my all, people would actually start to think less of me. Right now, that sounds so crazy but it’s the truth.
I’m just here to send out a very important notice to all the girls that might be falling into the same fallacies as I did. People love you for who you are, not for the things you do. They’ll be proud when you accomplish something, that’s a given and I won’t deny that it’s a great feeling. But honestly, who cares if you didn’t?
And if right now you're actually thinking of a person that would care if you don't accomplish everything - since when are they in control of your happiness? It’s time you give yourself a break. You deserve it. You work so hard for everything and you try your absolute best to keep everyone around you happy. It’s time to make YOU happy. I’m here to tell you, YOU need to start being your #1 priority. Right freaking now. I’m not even kidding; this stress you’re putting on yourself is awful for your health.
Up to this point, it’s probably annoying for you to read this. My intentions are for girls to be like, “Oh my God, I totally do that. I’m going to start making myself happy right now!” In a perfect world, that might happen. Unfortunately, I know you’re actually all thinking, “What? So I’m just supposed to stop working towards everything?” Not my message whatsoever. My point is, you’re a hard worker. You’ve earned that title. You’ve made sacrifices, you’ve been through so many tough times, you’ve earned the right to take step back for a while.
What’s the worst that can happen? I mean really? If nothing else, you’re going to get a better understanding of who you really are. You’re going to figure out what you really want and it’s going to make you better in the long run.
So it’s time to be selfish, ladies.
Turn down the third job, quit chasing that boy, and stop putting so much stress on yourself. You owe it to you.
