Happiness: A Work In Progress

Happiness: A Work In Progress

The world is consistently changing. So are you.
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"I feel the world has a way of choosing the worst days to knock us down and drag us out." - This Wild Life, "No More Bad Days"

I couldn't have said it any better myself.

As we are approaching Thanksgiving break and soon enough the closing of the first semester, I can tell that the tension on campus has reached a new high. It's not hard to see that people are much more stressed out, depressed, and overall being affected by the school work that is being thrusted upon them.

With all of that being said, one can see how easy it is to lose themselves in the whole hustle and bustle of what's going on around them. Unfortunately, one's happiness can also be forgotten in the mess.

This is a message to every student who feels as though they aren't able to be joyful during this time of year. Whether it be because of recent events in politics, family life, school, or anything else... please know that you are not what ails you. No matter what you are told, you are not always in control of how you're feeling. With that being said, your state of mind and your mental health is still important. You are loved. You are wanted.

I know this may sound as cliché as can be, however during times of struggle, it is important to take care of oneself. Now more than ever. Too many people have suffered greatly from the stress and mental strain of college and/or home life. Now is the time to reach out and show love to people who need it.

It is okay to be full of life one day and depressed the next. You do not need a reason for this occurrence. Plenty of people suffer from mental illness, and that's not in their control. The same goes for you. If you are not suffering from any sort of mental illness, it is still possible that you will feel depressed over events, or over nothing at all. That is okay. You must only recognize your emotions for what they are and push forward. Happiness is not a stagnant feeling. Life will always be a roller coaster, with your emotions as the riders. It's important to remember that even if you do not like the direction in which the ride is going right now, that it could quickly change in a matter of seconds.

No one has it all figured out yet. We are people that are consistently changing and growing. It is to be expected that feelings will also change. That is what we call "part of life."

"I think the world has a way of choosing the worst days to knock us down and drag us out... but every door that's closed opens a new window." - This Wild Life, "No More Bad Days"

Stay strong. Don't lose hope. Keep pushing forward.


Cover Image Credit: Celeste Pascual

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Turns out I didn't, and the hurt I've been burying from that hit me all at once, the same moment my life fell apart faster than a drunk dude approaching a Jenga stack.

My life flipped upside down overnight back in August. I had my heart broken shattered, lost two very important friendships that I thought were with me until the end, lost my 9-5 job, my health took a hit stronger than a boulder, and I was absolutely lost. For the first time, ever, I let go of the reigns on my own life. I had no idea how to handle myself, how to make anyone around me happy, how to get out of bed or how to even begin the process of trying to process what the f*ck just happened. I was terrified.

Coming from the girl who never encountered a dilemma she couldn't fix instantaneously, on her own, with no emotional burden. I was checked out from making my life better. So I didn't try. I didn't even think about thinking about trying.

The only relatively understandable way I could think to deal with anything was to not deal with anything. And that's exactly what I did. And it was f*cking amazing.

I went into hiding for a week, then went on a week getaway with my family, regained that feeling of being loved unconditionally, and realized that's all I need. They are all I need. Friends? Nah. Family. Only. Always.

On that vacation, I got a call from the school district that they wanted me in for an interview the day I come home. It was for a position that entailed every single class, combined, that I took in my college career. It was a career that I had just gotten my degree for three months before.

I came home and saw my doctor and got a health plan in order. I was immediately thrown into the month-long hiring process for work. I made it a point to make sunset every single night, alone, to make sure I was mentally caught up and in-check at the same exact speed that my life was turning. I was not about to lose my control again. Not ever.

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You outgrow people you thought you couldn't live without, and you're not the one to blame for that. You're growing.
Sometimes it takes your break down to reach your breakthrough.

Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

My god, it's so f*cking good.

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If You Don't Prioritize Yourself, 2019 Won't Be Your Year

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Self-love is super important and it's really been stressed in recent years. Falling in love with yourself is the key to a happier, healthier life. I have never put myself first up until recently and was sabotaging my own happiness at the expense of others, who I thought would make me happy when they did the opposite. I tend to be too harsh on myself and how I look and act, but that is coming to an end this year. Before I do anything, I will stop and think about its effect on me before anyone else. If it doesn't benefit me whatsoever, I'm out. Unless of course, it's charity work or something along those lines.

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