Happiness: A Work In Progress

Happiness: A Work In Progress

The world is consistently changing. So are you.

"I feel the world has a way of choosing the worst days to knock us down and drag us out." - This Wild Life, "No More Bad Days"

I couldn't have said it any better myself.

As we are approaching Thanksgiving break and soon enough the closing of the first semester, I can tell that the tension on campus has reached a new high. It's not hard to see that people are much more stressed out, depressed, and overall being affected by the school work that is being thrusted upon them.

With all of that being said, one can see how easy it is to lose themselves in the whole hustle and bustle of what's going on around them. Unfortunately, one's happiness can also be forgotten in the mess.

This is a message to every student who feels as though they aren't able to be joyful during this time of year. Whether it be because of recent events in politics, family life, school, or anything else... please know that you are not what ails you. No matter what you are told, you are not always in control of how you're feeling. With that being said, your state of mind and your mental health is still important. You are loved. You are wanted.

I know this may sound as cliché as can be, however during times of struggle, it is important to take care of oneself. Now more than ever. Too many people have suffered greatly from the stress and mental strain of college and/or home life. Now is the time to reach out and show love to people who need it.

It is okay to be full of life one day and depressed the next. You do not need a reason for this occurrence. Plenty of people suffer from mental illness, and that's not in their control. The same goes for you. If you are not suffering from any sort of mental illness, it is still possible that you will feel depressed over events, or over nothing at all. That is okay. You must only recognize your emotions for what they are and push forward. Happiness is not a stagnant feeling. Life will always be a roller coaster, with your emotions as the riders. It's important to remember that even if you do not like the direction in which the ride is going right now, that it could quickly change in a matter of seconds.

No one has it all figured out yet. We are people that are consistently changing and growing. It is to be expected that feelings will also change. That is what we call "part of life."

"I think the world has a way of choosing the worst days to knock us down and drag us out... but every door that's closed opens a new window." - This Wild Life, "No More Bad Days"

Stay strong. Don't lose hope. Keep pushing forward.

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65 Truths College Students Need to Hear Right Now

Truth every college student needs to hear.

1. The best memories are ones you actually can remember.

2. God isn’t going to ask you if you were in a top-tier sorority or fraternity at the gates.

3. You failed a test, not your life.

4. Numbers don’t define you.

5. That includes the number you see that is your grade.

6. Also, how much you weigh.

7. As well as if you are a “7/10” on a so-called “hot scale.”

8. Or if you can bench press 200 lbs. (@ all the guys at the gym, please chill.)

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9. Innocence is nothing to be ashamed of.

10. Neither are mistakes.

11. But learn from your mistakes. Mistakes can be lessons, which can be the biggest blessing.

12. Your metabolism isn’t what it used to be and that is okay.

13. You may not always understand what God is doing, but I promise He has a plan.

14. Every person you meet is battling their own struggles.

15. Life isn’t always great moments.

16. But you have to walk through the forest to get to the mountain top.

17. Your heart isn’t damaged. It is temporarily broken but it will be fixed.

18. However, the only one who can fix a broken heart is the one who created it.

19. So a cute boy or hot girl can’t put the pieces back together.

20. Neither can ice cream.

21. But ice cream can totally help.

22. Stop texting your ex. He/She is your ex for a reason.

23. Loving Jesus means loving people.

24. Loving Jesus also means loving the image of Him in the mirror you see.

25. Stop hiding your emotions. Stop crying in the bathroom or behind a locked door. You have people in your life who care about you.

26. Suicide is never the answer.

27. Breathe in, breathe out.

28. Do you feel your heart pump? Do you feel the air exiting your body? That is a sign you are here for a purpose. Your life is no mistake.

29. Just because you doubt, doesn’t mean you don’t believe in Jesus.

30. However, when walking on the water scares you, look to Jesus and keep your eyes on Him.

31. If you have the opportunity to go to school go. There are young girls around the world who would do anything to sit at the desk you are complaining about.

32. Don’t pick a career based on money.

33. However, I promise you can use any passion or gift to serve a purpose bigger than yourself if you allow yourself to give it to the One who gave it to you.

34. You don’t need pretty prayers to please God.

35. Talk to Him like you are talking to a friend.

36. Look for the good in everyone.

37. That includes the mean girl who no one likes. Chances are she is mean for a reason. Someone was once mean to her. Kill her with kindness.

38. Pray to have the Lord’s eyes. See people with love.

39. Try to have the Lord’s hands, always be reaching out to others.

40. Each morning, pray to have the Lord’s feet and go where He calls you.

41. It is a bad day, not a bad life.

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42. You don’t need a six-pack to find a man who loves you.

43. You need a spouse who will be able to look at you when you are 80, and wrinkly and maybe a little chunky, and you need him to love you then. If he loves you for your body and your hair, I promise he doesn’t actually love you. Looks fade, but love is eternal. Find someone who loves you like Jesus.

44. Do some squats.

45. But squat so you feel good about yourself, not to attract the opposite sex.

46. You are never too old to find a new hobby.

47. You were beautiful before someone told you.

48. If you don’t know if you are in relationship or not, leave. You deserve clarity, not insecurity.

49. You deserve friendships that are mutual.

50. The best Friday nights are spent with a puppy and food. It is okay to not always be social.

51. Stop worrying about whether your crush will text you back.

52. Stop over analyzing everything in general.

53. Pray for your future spouse.

54. However, also pray for your future bridesmaids/groomsmen. Some of the most influential people you may have in your life you may not have even met yet.

55. Storms bring strength.

56. And storms bring rainbows if you are patient and observant.

57. Stop Pinteresting your dream life and start living it.

58. The Bible is actually extremely relatable. Open it up. Read it.

59. Romans 8:28 “and we know God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” God is on your team. He wants you to have moments of celebration. He has a purpose for you greater than your bad day.

60. Never forget what Jesus did for you on that cross. When he died for you, it was painful and brutal. It was ugly. It was love. Don’t let that truth ever become numb to you no matter how many times you have heard the story.

61. There is nothing wrong with carbs.

62. Study. And don’t wait for the night before.

63. Find someone who you can look up to.

64. Also, never forget that there is always someone looking up to you. Act like someone you would want your future children to be. Act in a way that reflects wisdom.

65. Smile more, you are loved by the one who hung the stars and painted the sea. He created puppies and carbs–yet still loves you more. That is something to celebrate.

College is tough and life is hard. You are going to have moments where all you want to do is celebrate life with your best friends, but you will also have moments where you just want to lock the door, ignore everyone, and have a good cry. Never forget that your worth comes from something greater than your Biology grade, and from Someone greater that the one who broke your heart.

You aren’t too cool for Christ in college. Christ is a necessity for you in your life. He can hold your hand during your heartbreaks and failures and celebrate with you when you get the text back or a passing grade in foreign language. He loves for you and cares for you more than your sorority or fraternity ever will.

So buy your books, do your homework, but never forget when you are walking to you 8:00 a.m. you regretfully signed up for, to look up. Look at the clouds and the sky and thank your creator that in a big big world with many beautiful things, He still loves our messy hearts even more. So this one is for the boys for the King. This life is for the One who laid down His life.

I promise college is more fun when you dance with your Savior. Follow His lead and let him take you on a journey where you can find your purpose. You may not know where you are going, but you do know who you are following.

So never forget that although classes may be hard, and your metabolism may be slowing down–God is still good. He turns our ashes into beauty and our trials into our testimony. Do life with your creator and I promise you that you will have more than you need.

Romans 8:28 “And we know God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”

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I'm The 'Fat Friend' And I Am OK With That

My size will not be my downfall.


"As a child, fat was the first-word people used to describe me, which didn't offend me until I found out it was supposed to" - Blythe Baird

Growing up, I have always had a problem with my weight. I was the biggest kid in all of my primary school classes and the obese child in the family. Of course, when I was little, I didn't know that "fat" was a derogatory word. I didn't even notice that I had a problem until I was told otherwise.

Every doctor visit became more about the weight shown on the scale rather than the reason I was there. Every Christmas photo became me standing next to Santa because I was afraid I would break his leg if I sat on it. Every school lunch became me giving my tray to someone else so I wouldn't have to eat the food on it.

My size became my life, and it ruined my self-esteem.

But then it all changed. After years of hating how big I was, I started changing. I learned to wear clothes that make me look and feel confident. I started looking at myself in the mirror and loving what I saw. I started smiling when trying on clothes. I started loving myself.

My weight was just a number - it no longer defined me as a person.

I did try to lose weight, but it was more about health than size. I shopped for clothes that fit my body and all of its beautiful curves. I eat what I want when I want now. When people call me fat to hurt me, I no longer let it resonate in my mind. I am big and I am beautiful.

Yeah, I am the "fat friend," but I wouldn't change that for a thing.

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