The 28 Types Of Guys Every Girl In Her 20s Should Be With At Least Once

The 28 Types Of Guys Every Girl In Her 20s Should Be With At Least Once

10. The one that makes you a better person

Your 20s can be a fun time of exploration and self-development. They can also be a flaming dumpster fire and the most difficult and awkward times of your life.

Dating in your 20's is an especially interesting experience and there's a good chance you'll come across some shady characters. But occasionally there's a diamond in the rough. The guys with these characteristics will be a beacon of hope in an otherwise bleak dating scene.

And hey, if monogamy is more your thing, the right guy can (and should) be a combination of more than one of these features.

*Disclaimer* Not all women want to date men. LGBTQ+ women that aren't into men exist and are totally valid. And men who date men experience these things too! This isn't exclusively a females-only experience, but rather just a fun piece that most women that date men can relate to in some capacity.

1. The feminist: the one that puts your pleasure first

This is the guy that wants to make sure your needs are being met every time you're together. He isn't afraid to put in some extra work to make sure you feel comfortable, safe, and satisfied.

2. The one that's still in the closet

The guys that are still in the closet treat you really well at first because they're trying to compensate for the lack of physical attraction

Plus, parents love them

3. The one who's a little bit of a freak

It's good to explore fun new things in your 20's, YOLO.

4. The one who's no good for you

Only because it's important to realize it soon enough so that you recognize your own worth in the future.

5. The one who was raised correctly

This is the guy that's the epitome of polite, the one you'd be happy to bring home to your mama. He's sweet, respectful, and genuinely good for you.

6. An older guy

More experience = better in bed. Plus financial stability, responsibility, and hopefully he's past the whole fuckboy stage.

I'm not saying you should go out and get yourself a sugar daddy but if the opportunity presents itself...

7. A man who's comfortable with his emotions

This guy will put emotions over pleasure, making sure that you're always feeling good not just physically but mentally when you're with him as well. He's not afraid to tell you how he feels or to open his heart up to you. This guy is a dream that you never thought would be possible... until you find him that is.

8. The guy who you don't agree with on everything

Whether it's differing politics, religions, or even whether or not you like pineapple on your pizza, it's important to be with someone who will expand your thinking and that you can have interesting conversations with (as long as he's respectful of your opinions too, of course).

9. The one who supports your wildest dreams

From grad school to dream careers to family plans, life is so much better with someone along for the ride who's willing to support your fantasies and do everything he can to make those dreams come true.

10. The one who makes you a better person

What are relationships about if not mutual growth? Every guy you're with should challenge you in some way, teach you something new, and be an experience that adds to who you are as a person.

11. The one that teaches you how to love

Whether he teaches you how to love yourself or he's your first time falling in love with someone else, the guy that teaches you what love is and what sort of love you deserve is invaluable.

12. The guy that meets and exceeds your expectations

"A woman should NEVER lower her expectations of a man because that’s when you’ll start meeting all the douchebags. There are men out there that want to treat you the way you’ve always dreamed of being treated (aka, a priority). It just takes time. "

13. The one that loves his family

Whether he's best friends with his sister, loves his mom, has incredibly real conversations with his dad, or he spends weekends playing with his nieces and nephews, the guy who loves his family is so important to have around (plus he'll make a great dad if the relationship is going that way).

14. The dude who knows how you like your coffee

Get you a man that knows your Starbucks order and will bring it to you on a Monday morning before a stressful day.

15. The one that things feel natural with

The guy I'm currently with fits like a puzzle piece I never knew was missing. From day one, everything's been completely effortless and we fit fluidly together in the most perfectly effortless way.

16. The one who will walk you to the front door and kiss you goodnight

Don't settle for the guy that drops you off at the curb. Same goes for the one that honks for you to come outside rather than coming to the door to meet you.

17. The actual nice guy

Not to be confused with the self-professed "nice guy", the actual nice guy is one that respects you, your boundaries, and your decisions. He won't pressure you into anything you don't feel comfortable with. He'll be happy to spend time with you in public. You'll always be more than just the 2AM girl with this type of guy.

18. The one that's happy to just be your friend

When I started getting exclusive with this one guy, I told the other guys I'd been seeing and while some of them were super butthurt about it, the best ones were willing to be my friend through my new relationship, to listen to my stories, and to continue to spend time with me, even though nothing romantic was going to transpire.

19. The one who still thinks you're beautiful, despite your flaws

Get you a guy who sees you first thing in the morning when you wake up and your hair's a mess and last night's makeup is smeared and still thinks you're the most beautiful girl he's ever seen.

20. The one you feel comfortable sitting in silence with

The best types of relationships are the ones where you don't need to fill the quiet with sound and you're happy just being in each other's presence.

21. The one that responds to your needs

Whether in bed or outside of it, get you a guy who's attentive and will react accordingly to what you need, what's working, and what isn't.

22. The one that you don't see coming

The best relationships show up when you're least expecting them. I was convinced I wasn't the relationshp type, that I was more into casual encounters, and then the right guy came along and convinced me otherwise.

23. The spontaneous one

The one you don't have to make plans with, that you can just go for a drive or take a nap with, eat whatever's in the fridge or go out with, his place or yours whichever, not every minute needs to be planned out to the second.

24. The one you've had a crush on forever

When things finally fall into place with the guy you've had the hots for for the longest time, it couldn't be more magical. Hopefully, everything lives up to your fantasies and expectations.

25. The one night stand

Don't knock it until you try it. Something quick flings with someone you'll never see again are the most fun.

26. The teacher

This guy will always be teaching you something new; whether it's a new position or technique or even the latest interesting thing he read online. He doesn't have to be a teacher in real life but his passion for learning and for educating you will carry over even after the school day is over.

27. The one that's comfortable with his own sexuality

Whether that means being willing to try new positions, kinks, or letting you take the reins sometimes, it's always fun to be with someone who is willing to explore the limits of their sexuality.

28. The One

At the end of it all, I hope you meet the one. The one that makes you feel like a queen, that trEATS you right, that you genuinely see a future with. Best of luck in your hunt for soulmate finding and may the odds be ever in your favor.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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5 Reasons Why I Don't Want Kids

Procreating. It's not for everyone.


My cousin had a baby last August. She's absolutely beautiful and I love her to death, but she doesn't change my mind when it comes to wanting kids when I'm older. Truth is, I don't want kids. I'm sure everyone says this at some point in their life, and maybe I will change my mind in the future, but kids kind of freak me out.

Maybe I'm just not the most maternal person, but here's why having kids, at least for now, isn't on my bucket list.

1. Giving birth.

I know, I know, it's a beautiful thing, the miracle of life or whatever, but go watch a birthing video and then come tell me how beautiful it really is. Everything from a woman's water breaking, to actually giving birth just grosses me out, to be honest.

The thought of having to push something the size of a watermelon out of something the size of a lemon is just absolutely terrifying. I have a pretty average to above average pain tolerance, but no matter how well you can deal with pain, that shit is obviously not a pleasant experience.

2. The responsibility.

You have to do everything for babies, literally everything. Feed it, dress it, wash it, change it, put it to sleep, and you have to know what a baby wants when it wants it. If I had a baby and it started to cry, I would have no idea what to do. I know plenty of people say that once you have the baby, you automatically know which type of crying is for what need, but that makes no sense to me.

Do babies have different types of cries? How do you know which is which?

I consider myself a pretty responsible person when it comes time to be accountable for myself, but to be accountable for another life form?

I'll put it this way. I have two pet turtles. We got them when I was about twelve or so years old, and I remember being obsessed with them. That lasted for like maybe two weeks, and then I got bored with them, which meant I didn't take care of them. My parents did. Not the best analogy for obvious reasons, but I'm sure you understand what I'm trying to say. In other words, if I can barely take care of a pet, how would I ever be able to take care of a small human?

3. Kids are messy and loud.

Look, I'm not like a total clean freak or anything like that, but my mother definitely is. She used to disinfect sticks so my sister and I could roast marshmallows when we went camping for Girl Scouts. My point is, it's been drilled into my brain that everything has to be wiped down clean, and germs are not my friends.

I hate being around sick people; they freak me out, especially since I get sick so easily. If my baby or child were to get sick, I'd obviously still have to take care of it, which means wiping snot, cleaning vomit, and getting coughed on. I guarantee you, as soon as my child were to get better, I'd get sick.

Don't even get me started on changing dirty diapers.

Also, if there's anything I've learned from my cousin's baby thus far, it's that babies put everything in their mouths. Any object on the ground, their hands, and feet; nothing is safe. Babies don't understand sanitation, so it's not their fault, but I just know that if I had a kid, it would be in a plastic bubble so it could remain as clean as possible.

Babies are also very loud. Back when I worked at a diner, we used to have customers with little kids and babies all the time. If the kid was unhappy for any reason, that child would scream its head off. I never understood how such a big noise could come from such a small human.

4. Kids are expensive AF.

Kids are not cheap. They have an entire laundry list of stuff that needs to be bought for them, and they run out of supplies frequently. I can't imagine how much money people spend on things like diapers, formula, and clothes. Speaking of clothes, babies grow out things quickly. You get one or two good uses of an outfit and that's it. They outgrow it, and they can no longer use it.

Then, as they get older, you've got to think about school, eventually college, and extracurricular activities that they want to do, gifts for Christmas and other holidays. I say all of this, realizing how much my own parents have spent on me and my siblings (thanks, Mom and Dad).

5. Raising kids looks hard.

Knowing how much my sisters and I were pains in the asses for my parents, I can't imagine having to deal with that crap myself. The whole idea of shaping a child into a fully functioning member of society with good morals and conscience sounds like a lot of work.

There have been so many times where I would be at work and I'd have to deal with customers that have their kids with them, and these children are the biggest brats I've ever seen. Rude, disrespectful, obnoxious or disruptive; just the opposite of how kids should act in any public setting.

A big part of the reason I wouldn't want kids is that I see other people's kids and the way they act. It makes me just want to yell at the parents. At least I know that if I do ever decide to have kids, they'll be raised the way I want them to be and they'll behave the way they're supposed to. Appropriately.

In the big picture of things, whether or not you want kids is up to you. It's not meant for everyone and that's not the end of the world. I always get told that I don't mean it when I say I don't want kids, which isn't that big of a deal, but it can get annoying. In my opinion, if a person says they don't want kids, it's not because they think kids are like some evil being or anything like that. It's because they know their limits.

Growing a family is an amazing thing, but it's also different for everyone. No one should be judged for not liking or wanting to have kids. Everyone has different opinions. This one is just mine.


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