A few weeks back, I wrote about what us gals are sick and tired of seeing in guys' Tinder profiles. This is a topic that has been discussed in multiple forums for men, but I can't seem to find anything that would help a girl figure out what to put in her profile, which I'll admit, has left me running off instinct, and relying on my female-ness to help me rake in matches.
So, in the name of equality, or continuity, I'm doing one for the boys. That's right. For a week, I used Tinder for research purposes. In my bio, I posed the question "what things are you tired of seeing in girls Tinder profiles?"
The men of Tinder responded enthusiastically, and I had some very very insightful conversations (the reasoning behind number two was especially fascinating to me). To give these guys an honest platform, I've recorded highlights of some of those conversations below, completely unadulterated. Enjoy
1. Stop quoting Marilyn Monroe
"Any Marilyn Monroe quotes." - Barry, 21
"I hate the basic quotes. I like actually knowing something about them!" - Carson, 22
"Well 'I’m here to make friends' and, 'I say hello to dogs before humans' are two very annoying ones for sure. - Felix, 25
2. What's the point of putting “No Hookups”?
"When girls put “no hookups.” I just don’t understand the point of putting that. Like if you don’t wanna hook up with someone, then don’t do it. I also feel like it's not gonna stop any guy. I'm not into hookups nor am I looking for any but if I was, then that statement wouldn’t stop me or any other guy from trying to hook up." - Allen, 22
"Anything about not wanting hookups…but maybe that one is for personal reasons. Basically, it goes like this. I respect your right to do whatever you do or do not wanna do. I don’t care if you say no (to a hookup) and I get that not having it in your bio where lots of other girls do can make it seem like you’re okay with having a casual hookup, but it makes me feel like some pervert who’s only looking for sex. It’s basically stereotyping all guys and saying that we all just want sex and I don’t think that’s fair. It’d be like going on an interracial dating site and saying “no thugs” or whatever. Like you can have that opinion but it just puts all those people in a box." - Barry, 21
3. Stop posting pics with your squad
" Well, the number one most annoying thing is nothing but group pictures. I hate that, because I'm like 'okay, which one are you?' I really dislike when girls don’t have pictures of just them on their profile." - Tyler, 24
"Like when they only have pictures with friends and it’s the same friends so you never know which girl it is." - Ralph, 21
"When every picture is them with 1000 different friends so I have no idea who TF they are." - Allen, 22
"When every picture is a group pic with the same 1-2 other people, so you never know exactly which person it is." - Justin, 25
"No full body shots. Also, when girls post photos with other dudes." - Dalton, 21
4. Your Venmo username
"Putting their cash app/Venmo links on there like I'm gonna send them money or something." - Justin, 25
"The "Venmo me for my number" bios." - Harry, 21
5. You don't have a flower crown IRL so stop with the Snapchat filters
"When every picture is a selfie with a Snapchat filter." - Allen, 22
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"I can't put myself into the shoes of a woman on Tinder so I really can't judge the things they do and say but if I had to pick one it would be when girls go ape with the filters and makeup and then you meet them in real life and they're a different person." - Aldin, 23
6. Miscellaneous
"This is just personal preference, but I don’t like a girl's profile if she literally tells me everything she likes and dislikes. The mystery is gone and now I have limited stuff to ask for “small talk." Oh and if she doesn’t have any humor in the bio. That’s a big deal breaker for me to be honest. I need a funny girl." - Tyler, 24
"I’m not a fan of profiles that state “must be 6’ and up” or something. Obviously, these are standards much like guys have, but its still kind of annoying to see. Even for a guy who is 6’ and above." - Kenny, 21
"Anytime a girl says she is gonna like my dog more than me, it kinda pisses me off." - Caleb, 22
"A link to their Venmo, 'just add me on Insta, @blahblahblah' or 'just add me on Snapchat.' I assume all those girls are just trolling for followers.
- Hugo, 23
"When the bio tells me to do something. For example, “message me first” or “send me your best pickup line” etc. Honestly, anything in their bio that makes it seem like I'm in a competition for that girl. There's, like, a million girls on Tinder, I'm not gonna compete for one chick I've never met." - Allen, 22
"Anything about horoscopes. And anything about admitting they're crazy." - Barry, 21
There you have it. Now, when cuffing season rolls around this fall, us women will be ready to slay the Tinder game.
Names have been changed and answers have been edited for length and clarity.
