A lot of girls get to college and have never had a boyfriend before. First relationships need to meet a lot of expectations, and it's hard for things to go right with a person you meet in a dirty bar. People are using Tinder to get dates with people who probably won't be around for more than a week and girls don't know if the guy they take to all of their sorority functions is into them or just their functions. Sometimes its hard not to wonder: so what do guys think about all of this?
Ladies, I asked a guy about his college experiences with girls and dating and these are his responses.
Do guys want to date in college?
*Sighs* "Not within the first two years."
What would make you want to date a girl in college?
"Her intellect and the conversation. I would want to know she's going to be more than just a "fun time." Don't be lame and have plans for the future. I don't know what else to say."
How would you feel about a girl approaching you at the bar?
"Uh, if a girl approaches me at a bar she just made my job 10x easier. It makes me feel good and gives me the confidence to carry on the conversation."
What about if you approach a girl at a bar? What would make you do that?
"If I go up to a girl its because my friends hyped me up. But like, its because we'd been talking about that girl. Its not a bet its like, 'yo, you need to go holla at that'."
Are you approaching her just to flirt or date?
"After the first 10 minutes of conversation I know if I'm trying to wife her or... ya know."
What's it mean when a guy asks a girl to meet him downtown?
"I'm trying to see if I like her around other people. If I was just trying to hookup I would just say it."
Speaking of meeting girls, do you have a Tinder?
*Laughing* "Yes."
What do you use your Tinder for?
"Tinder is for first dates only. You don't use Tinder to get a girlfriend."
So if you wanted to meet a nice girl, where would you meet her?
"Doing the sh*t you're supposed to be doing; eating, studying, going to class, or hanging out with friends."
Do guys talk about girls they actually like or just hookups?
*Uncomfortably smiling* "Now that can go both ways. Like what do you mean talk about them? They aren't going to talk about a girl they like until they are exclusive. If they talk about her too much their friends will put their opinions in it too much. Why you think you get a sudden influx of follow requests on Instagram? That's his friends trying to see what you look like."
Is there anything else you wish to say about females and dating in college?
"Never be afraid to approach a guy that you like and let him know that you like him. Chances are he likes you back and he just thinks you decided that you guys are just friends. We don't know when you like us."
