I want you to imagine the most perfect guy you can; your dream guy. The guy you made a list about. This guy fits everything you could have ever wanted in your future husband. Now, I’m here to say, He is not the one for you. If a guy is everything you imagined, than He is not enough. He is not God’s best for you.

*I would like to put a disclaimer here before I go any further and say that no guy is perfect, but bear with me for the point of this article.*

Recently, I have had two friends who have been interested in these two guys. And you want to know what I asked them. I asked, “Is he everything you ever imagined? When you thought of your dream guy, is he everything you could have wanted? The best you can think of?”

This question alone made them stop and think. But I went further.

“Even if He is the guy of your dreams, He is not the guy for you.”

This caused some confusion so I explained my reasoning behind saying this.

I told them that when I meet the man for me, I want to say he is more than the man of my dreams. Saying I want to meet the man of my dreams is putting God in a box. It is saying that my imagination for what my dream guy is like is greater than the reality God could offer me. Cause the fact is, God’s dreams for me are even bigger than my own, and this includes His dreams for my future spouse.

I may think I have the perfect idea of what I am looking for in my future husband. But I am not content with what I want. I want what God wants for me. I want to stop thinking my dreams are bigger than God’s and to stop putting Him in a box. It is so foolish of me to think that in any way I could dream up a better guy for myself than God could for me.

I am taking God out of the box. I am removing the border I surrounded Him with and letting Him expand the lines of my dream guy. I want more than my dream guy. I want God’s dream guy. I want to be able to confidently say when I get married that the man I am marrying is more than I could ever have dreamed of for myself, but I know it is exactly who God dreamed for me. Who God created for me.

I am no longer content with the size of my dreams. I want God’s dreams for me. I am done thinking I know what is best for me. I think it is almost funny how wrong I am in thinking I know what is best for me. I have all these ideas in my head of what I am looking for in my future husband, and while I am sure a good majority line up with what God has in store for me, I know there are some things I am not even thinking about that God knows that will end up being good for me. All I know is that I am so excited that we have a God who does not remain in the box we have set up for Him. I am so glad that we have a God who’s plans for us exceed anything we could have every imagined and that He is faithful in fulfilling His plan for our lives and that his dreams for my future spouse are better than mine.