I'm just gonna say it: boys are dumb. They're so stupid, in fact, that they can't even see what they have when it's staring them in the face. And for some reason, their emotional unavailability is so appealing to me. I ignore it every single time that they do something to hurt me, protecting them by telling myself "there's a reason he's treating me this way". Girlfriend, no. He is not going through anything that excuses the fact that he is treating you like shit. I think that we recognize that some guys are so screwed up and we want to feel compassion for them but what is that compassion costing you? For me, it's my dignity, it's my self-respect, it's the way I value my relationships with others. At some point, the compassion you feel can only go so far.

Boys will put in the minimum amount of effort that they can with you to get with you for a night or two. He will say anything he can to make you fall under his spell, all under the guise of a charming smile. And I fall for it, every single time. Nothing makes you feel quite as small as a person who uses you. It creates doubts for yourself, and there is not a single thing about you that you should be forced to question. You are so beautiful, inside and out and someday that is going to shine through to someone who has the best of intentions for you. I wouldn't have to take finals I'd be so rich if I had a dollar for every time that I heard "I like you, but I just don't know what I want right now." Or "I like you, but I'm just not ready for a relationship in college." Like you dunderhead, you are giving up the chance to build a life with someone special so you can sleep around. That's a temporary release.

How about waking up to someone you love every morning? Doing the most menial of tasks together, like grocery shopping, and having fun because you know the person beside you is your best friend. Every time I hear those phrases, I cut out everything except for "I like you" and I ignore what they are actually trying to tell me. Why? I am gaining absolutely nothing from that relationship. I'm just at the point where I've been disappointed time and time again and I don't even want to have feelings anymore, I'm just ready to get on with my life.

Sometimes you have to thank God that's over! and move on girl. Being single doesn't feel like a trap anymore, for me, it feels like I'm taking my time and waiting for the perfect person. In one of my all time favorite movies, the 2005 rendition of Pride Prejudice, Elizabeth Bennett says "Only the deepest love will persuade me into matrimony, which is why I will likely end up an old maid." I love myself enough not to settle for less than what I deserve, and so I guess I'll be waiting right there with her for that.