Guide To Dating A Woman With A Strong Personality

Guide To Dating A Woman With A Strong Personality

She won’t take sh%t from anyone.
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Strong women. A lot of the time we look at pop culture and see this caricature of a woman with a strong personality. She is the crisp pantsuit-wearing, CEO with a blunt-cut bob and Louboutin red lips. She exudes power as she barks at all of her employees like underlings. Unshockingly, she is single… because let’s be real, no one wants to deal with all her crazy. But what does a real woman with a strong personality look like? What is it like to date her? I think it looks a little different from the woman just described.

A woman with a strong personality has very strong opinions about even the most minute things. While she is sitting in your passenger seat, a song will come on the radio and she will rant over one lyric. Be prepared for a long, in-depth answer if you ask her opinion on pretty much anything.

She won’t take sh%t from anyone. No matter if it’s a friend, family member, her s/o, she will not let people get away with treating her poorly. She won’t let any of her loved ones be treated badly either and she will defend the ones she loves relentlessly.

Speaking of friends, she does not have a lot of them, but a few really good ones. Many are overwhelmed and/or intimidated by her personality, so she surrounds herself with the ones who can handle her and see her worth.

She won’t tell you, but she wants to be pursued. You might think she doesn’t care for small romantic gestures like flowers, chocolates, and opening the car door, but she does. She knows that she doesn’t need them to feel validated, but even the tiniest acts of kindness go a long way.

She will command respect, not demand it. She leads life in a respectable way and expects that respect. Just from the interactions you have had with her, you probably know that already. She wants to be treated as an equal, someone with a voice that you will not only listen to but trust.

Sometimes she will over-react. With all of the passion she has, she is bound to over-react at some point. Especially if she does not feel like anyone has taken what she has said into account.

She is so worth it. Yes, she might seem a little too much, maybe even bitchy, but she knows who she is and stands up for what she believes in. She is loyal to those she loves and always expects the same respect that she gives others. If you let her, she will have something new to share with you every day, Guaranteed.

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To The Toxic Relationship I Was Afraid To Let Go Of

To my younger self... I'm sorry.
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As time goes on the question that echoes in my mind is: "why?" Why did I let someone who was so undeserving have my love, time, and affection?

We all like to think that we have what it takes to mend the damage someone carries, but the fact of the matter is we don't. Hurt people, hurt people – and it was only when I tried to heal a bruised heart mine became the one in trouble. When you're young, vulnerable and under someone's spell you don't realize that you shouldn't have to rip yourself apart to keep someone else whole. I was scared of losing someone I didn't really have and I thought it was better to have someone halfway than not at all.

The irony of it all is that I grew up in a healthy environment. I have two parents who love my sister, each other, and myself unconditionally. They practice the same values they preach, some of which being loyalty, forgiveness, and how important it is to love each other despite the flaws that consume us. Those values were engraved so deep in my heart and soul I couldn't recognize when enough was enough or when to pull back and that just because I displayed these traits didn't mean they would be reciprocated. It took me a while to figure out I had to draw the line of determination from desperation.

It was a bittersweet realization when I looked up from my treacherous journey only to see it led me to a dead end, but I have never felt so liberated.

There's no denying I came out of the storm a different person and most definitely with a different heart. There were so many important lessons learned, both good and bad but the one thing that's for certain is it took me getting lost to find myself. You don't fully understand what you deserve until you experience something you don't. I learned the importance of self-worth and how crucial it is to not beat yourself up over the "coulda, shoulda, woulda's." I learned that in order to love someone, you have to start with yourself.

I know I'm not the only one who experienced this and I know I'm not the only one who wanted to figure it out on my own terms, but what I do know is that no one deserves it. I'm in my twenties now and still unsure of the actual meaning of love, but I know with absolute certainty that what I felt then was not it. I have so much growing, learning, and experiencing to do – and I fully intend on taking only those who deserve to be with me on my journey. No more and no less.

Everyone's story is different but the one thing they have in common is that we get to decide whom we share our stories with and how they make us feel. You never know which page your story will end with, so make sure it would be one you would be happy with. I urge every single one of you to rid yourself of people who do more harm than good. Life isn't forever.

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4 Signs You Are NOT Ready To Be In A Relationship

Being single isn't the end of the world, and if you think it is maybe you should re-check your priorities.

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Most people dream of finding the one. Spending months to years getting to know them, to settle down, have a life that they are comfortable with, with the person they share a deep connection. But if you are in your late teens or early twenties still in college wishing for this to happen to you, maybe you should look around and really take into consideration if you are ready for a relationship.

1.  All you can think about is having a significant other 

Now it's not bad if every now and then you take some time to really debate what you want in a partner and what your standards are. There is nothing wrong with looking around and seeing what you want and don't want in a partner, but if it constantly taking up space in your mind, you might need to take a step back and focus on other things.

 2. Your phone is full of dating apps 

Some people use these web tools to search and find people just looking for fun. But if you have multiple apps and you still are single it might be time to delete them and pour all the energy and attention to yourself and your hobbies. Dating apps aren't a bad thing if you make clear what you are looking for, but if it comes down to the fact that you are paying for extra swipes, maybe save that money and go spend it on a coffee.

3. You think about your ex...a lot 

Getting closure is a vital part of life. An ex is someone who will always have an impact on your life even if is in the way of choosing a type of food over another, or new music on your travel playlist. But if you are still pondering the breakup, or writing poetry, or crying casually over them a few times a month, you are far from closure.

4. You don’t love yourself 100%

If you are looking for someone to complete you, you might want to look in the mirror because that is the only person who can make you happy. The only person who can make you the person you dream of being one day is the one that you try to tune out, the one who you blame for being single, the one who you are desperately trying to find love for. If you don't love yourself then you won't find love anywhere else.

Loving yourself is something that should come naturally and loving someone else should too. But until you have a complete vision of what your values are no one can walk into your life and find them for you.

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