For freshmen like me who have met 300 people and have remembered 10 of their names, having to meet the same people over and over again is embarrassing and unproductive. Having a conversation with someone for 45 minutes and then having to ask for their name again at the end is a universal way to make people feel awkward and a little annoyed. Here are some tips for you and myself to memorize people's faces and names, especially in a college setting where you meet people at an unprecedented rate.
1. Avoid distractions
Make sure that when you meet someone, you shake their hand and look into their eyes, not at your phone or your surroundings. Not only does this make you seem more confident and personable, but makes it easier for you to concentrate on their name and face at the same time.
2. Repeat their name
Saying, "Hi *insert name here*" after your new acquaintance tells you his or her name is crucial in making yourself seem both attentive and social, and helping you remember his or her name better.
3. In a big group, play the name game
Ask everyone to say their name, and then repeat each name after it's been said. At the end, test yourself either out loud or in your head by going around the group and saying each person's name again. It's tough introducing yourself to a big group like that, but even harder remembering everyone's name.
4. Use their name during the conversation
Don't overdo it, but make sure to call them by their name a few times, maybe even making their name a conversation topic. "Oh, Angie is my best friend's name" or "I've never met anyone named Laila before, but it's a beautiful name!". You'll seem engaged and friendly.
5. Don't be afraid to ask again
Everyone does forget once in a while, but make sure to do it sooner rather than later. The best time to ask for clarification is during that first conversation, or before leaving, so it is fresh in your mind. It will also seem like you want to see them again.
6. Add them on social media
Typing their name into your phone, either with their number or Facebook profile, will also help you remember their name and even give you the chance to re-check it later. Plus, social media friendship is a step closer to real friendship!
7. Admit your limited ability
People won't normally get upset when you don't know their name upon seeing them a second time, but when you really have no excuse to not know their name by a certain point, make sure to apologize. Make sure they know it's nothing personal, you just suck at this stuff. Maybe you can bond over it.
It's extremely hard to remember people's names, especially in a college setting where you are meeting dozens of people a day. But remembering someone's name is an essential social skill to have going forward in life, so it is worth the extra effort. Good luck everyone, and have a great school year!
