Most people have taken some sort of intro course when it comes to psychology. In many of these classes, they teach you the basic theories from some of the most well-known psychologists. There is, however, one model that many people know whether they have taken one of these classes or not - the Kubler-Ross model, also known as the five stages of grief.
The five stages of the Kubler-Ross model are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. While these stages were not originally meant to be seen as only stages of grief, they are normally interpreted as that. This model is also seen as being separate stages. The stages are separated into the stages so the experiences can be explained easier. Kubler-Ross never intended for these stages to seen as a set standard of how people should grieve normally. There are stages that can overlap, stages that last longer than others, and even stages that do not happen for certain people.
There is nothing wrong if you follow these grieving patterns very closely when it comes to your own feelings. It is also OK if you do not follow these patterns at all. People deal with things in their own ways. Just because someone copes differently than you does not mean that their ways are wrong. Some people do better if they have something to focus their energy on, while others need to take a break from things. There are people who need the time to themselves, but there are some that need to spend time with others.
There is no one-skill-fits-all when it comes to how people grieve. Whatever coping skill you decide helps you best, is what will help you best. Other people can help you find your best coping skill, but no one can tell you what is going to work for you. Also, there is no shame in seeking help if you feel that it is needed. This can be better than trying to fix more severe problems with grief on your own. No matter what way is the right one for you, dealing with your grief is better than trying to ignore what you are feeling.
