Lets talk about the age old question that people are always asking themselves:
"Why do bad things happen to good people?"
Now, I have no knowledge to talk about that question from a universal standpoint. What I want to talk about is from a relationship standpoint. We all know that one person who is a great person, probably the nicest person you know maybe, and bad crap always happens to them. People hurt them, take advantage of them, walk all over them all of the time. This same person, who is a scapegoat for terrible things, will still have the same great attitude, most likely, until they get to a certain breaking point.
I have been in this place, and I will never go back to it.
The reason that good people often times get hurt by others is because they expect too much out of people. These kind people are too optimistic, and too nice at times, which leads bad things to happen. What we all need to realize is, and this is pessimistic and incredibly dark, but, people are inherently bad. This all stems from the point of nature. In nature, it is every man and woman for himself. Even in modern times, this still causes people to be very selfish. When you expect the best out of someone, you will always be let down when you get the worst.
Going through high school and finally getting out into the real world was a real shock for me. I was always such a happy-go-lucky guy who was full of optimism. It took me seeing things for how they really are, experiencing all of the bad things that humans do to each other, for me to fully realize why it is such a bad thing to always expect the best out of everyone.
I wish you could expect the best out of humans. It would make life a lot easier that way, but it simply isn't realistic. Friends will stab you in the back, they will talk badly about you at some point. You will get passed over on your dream job for someone less qualified, someone will most likely steal from you at some point. Yes, this is terribly dark, but, expecting life to always be sunshine and roses is exactly why that nice guy always gets trampled on.
The day that I finally realized that life is amazing, yet I need to guard myself and not expect everyone to always do the right thing, was the best day of my life. When you are able to come to the realization that life isn't always going to go your way, you can help guard yourself from being let down all of the time, because we all know it will happen at some point.
I'm not saying that you need to have an awful pessimistic viewpoint of the world, because life is good, I can promise you that. But, what I am saying is, life is crazy, people are crazy at times. You can never expect everything to always go how you wish it would, and if you do, you will be let down a lot. If you don't expect perfection out of everyone, because nobody is perfect, you will not be as let down when their humanity takes over.