To Anyone Going Through A Heartbreak, It's Important To Remember What You Are Thankful For

To Anyone Going Through A Heartbreak, It's Important To Remember What You Are Thankful For

People will come and go but what the rest of your life holds is patiently waiting for you.

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When we are hurt or going through a rough patch it is so easy to fall into the pit of not knowing your self-worth. We sit around drowning our brain with negative thoughts and wishing for things we do NOT need. Stop playing that sad song on repeat, stop watching tear-jerker movie and get out and do something. Or at least sit and think about all the amazing things you do have going for you.

Next time you are feeling like this try to think about what you do have in your life instead of fixating on what you lost.

Think about your career, school or whatever you have that you are working towards these days. Remember how much work you have put into your goals thus far and don't let anything throw that off track. People will come and go but what the rest of your life holds is patiently waiting for you.

And if you are just starting out with your goals remind yourself about the light at the end of the tunnel and everything will pay off. Just keep going, dig deep and use that drive.

Think about your family. Which for many is also your biggest support system. You know, the people with unwavering belief in everything you do? Your family has been there for you since day one. They know you, remember that. When your family is giving you advice no matter how backward it sounds it's coming from a good place.

Your family has seen you evolve, they understand your potential like no one else, trust their judgment. And always remember they are your blood and you have a bond to them like no one else.

Think about your friends. These are the people first in line to snap you out of your funk. Friends may live far and near but they are the first to show up when something bad happens.

They will remind you of your beauty, your strength and all the things you deserve in this world. But they are also the first to maybe give you the reality check that you desperately need. But most importantly they may be your best distraction. Don't segregate yourself from the world, reach out to friends they will help you through.

Think about your dreams. The things you never thought you could do. Take this time, these emotions and try to make them a reality. When something ends it is giving time for something new to blossom. Yes, you have careers and school or whatever else you do on a daily basis but there are bigger things you yearn for. That thing that you just assume could never happen because it isn't "practical" or whatever excuse you give yourself.

Why can't you do it? Take this time for self-discovery and see what else is out there for you.

But most importantly think about YOU. I truly believe everything happens for a reason and for some reason you needed to go through this. There is nothing wrong with you and this is just a little bump in the road in the comparison to everything you're going to do in life.

No one is more important than you reaching your goals or your own happiness. And you deserve to be happy. Sometimes we have to be selfish and put ourselves first to find our meaning. Don't feel guilty for that.

I am one of these people. I do tend to keep everything bottled in and just wreck my brain with pure negativity. But with a conscious effort, I am trying to think of all the good things I have in life. It will take time and it will not be easy. But I will get there.

You should try too. You are amazing, you are strong and you are resilient. But most importantly you are loved and cared for, you may just have to sit down and remind yourself about that sometimes.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Dear Young Voices Of America, Stand Up, Speak Up, And Do Something

Our time is now.

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Dear young voices of America, I think we can both agree that we are sick of being told we are America's future while simultaneously being told our opinions don't matter. Now I personally do not listen to the people that tell me I'm better seen than heard; however, I know there are people that are a little timider when it comes to raising their voices. I am here to encourage you to be loud and speak up on topics that matter to you. There is no better time than the present to make your voice heard. Whether you are advocating for change in your school or the government, your opinion matters and is relevant.

We are the future of our country. How are we supposed to evoke change and reform if we can't have our voices heard? I call bullshit and I think it's time to take action. Even if you're the first or only person to advocate for your cause, be that person. Don't be afraid of anyone that tries to stand in your way. The only person that can stop you from speaking up for yourself and your cause is you. No matter how many nos you have to hear to get a yes or how many doors you have to knock on to get someone to open up, never give up. Never give up on your cause, never give up on yourself or the people you're representing, just don't do it. There is someone out there that supports you. Maybe they're just too shy to raise their voice too. Be encouraging and be supportive and get people to take a stand with you.

It is never too early or too late to start thinking about your future or to take action. But don't hesitate to say something. The sooner you start speaking up, the sooner you have people joining you and helping you, and the sooner you start to see and experience change. So get up, make that sign, write that letter, make that phone call, take part in that march, give that speech. Do whatever you feel fit to get your point across. Shout it from the rooftops, write it on your profile, send it in a letter, ignore everyone that tries to tell you to give up. Maybe they don't understand now, maybe they don't want to listen, maybe they're afraid to listen, but the more you talk about it and help them understand what exactly you are trying to get across, they will join you.

Even when it feels like you have nobody on your side but yourself, I am on your side. I will cheer you on, I will march with you hand in hand, I will write letters and make phone calls and help you find your voice. My life changed when I found my voice and yours will too.

So dear young voices of America, the time is now. Your time is now. Don't be afraid of the obstacles that you may have to face. Someone is out there waiting for you, waiting to grab your hand and march on with you. As Tarana Burke once said "Get up. Stand up. Speak up. Do something."

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