To Anyone Going Through A Heartbreak, It's Important To Remember What You Are Thankful For

To Anyone Going Through A Heartbreak, It's Important To Remember What You Are Thankful For

People will come and go but what the rest of your life holds is patiently waiting for you.

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When we are hurt or going through a rough patch it is so easy to fall into the pit of not knowing your self-worth. We sit around drowning our brain with negative thoughts and wishing for things we do NOT need. Stop playing that sad song on repeat, stop watching tear-jerker movie and get out and do something. Or at least sit and think about all the amazing things you do have going for you.

Next time you are feeling like this try to think about what you do have in your life instead of fixating on what you lost.

Think about your career, school or whatever you have that you are working towards these days. Remember how much work you have put into your goals thus far and don't let anything throw that off track. People will come and go but what the rest of your life holds is patiently waiting for you.

And if you are just starting out with your goals remind yourself about the light at the end of the tunnel and everything will pay off. Just keep going, dig deep and use that drive.

Think about your family. Which for many is also your biggest support system. You know, the people with unwavering belief in everything you do? Your family has been there for you since day one. They know you, remember that. When your family is giving you advice no matter how backward it sounds it's coming from a good place.

Your family has seen you evolve, they understand your potential like no one else, trust their judgment. And always remember they are your blood and you have a bond to them like no one else.

Think about your friends. These are the people first in line to snap you out of your funk. Friends may live far and near but they are the first to show up when something bad happens.

They will remind you of your beauty, your strength and all the things you deserve in this world. But they are also the first to maybe give you the reality check that you desperately need. But most importantly they may be your best distraction. Don't segregate yourself from the world, reach out to friends they will help you through.

Think about your dreams. The things you never thought you could do. Take this time, these emotions and try to make them a reality. When something ends it is giving time for something new to blossom. Yes, you have careers and school or whatever else you do on a daily basis but there are bigger things you yearn for. That thing that you just assume could never happen because it isn't "practical" or whatever excuse you give yourself.

Why can't you do it? Take this time for self-discovery and see what else is out there for you.

But most importantly think about YOU. I truly believe everything happens for a reason and for some reason you needed to go through this. There is nothing wrong with you and this is just a little bump in the road in the comparison to everything you're going to do in life.

No one is more important than you reaching your goals or your own happiness. And you deserve to be happy. Sometimes we have to be selfish and put ourselves first to find our meaning. Don't feel guilty for that.

I am one of these people. I do tend to keep everything bottled in and just wreck my brain with pure negativity. But with a conscious effort, I am trying to think of all the good things I have in life. It will take time and it will not be easy. But I will get there.

You should try too. You are amazing, you are strong and you are resilient. But most importantly you are loved and cared for, you may just have to sit down and remind yourself about that sometimes.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.
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Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.


7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Why The Idea Of 'No Politics At The Dinner Table' Takes Place And Why We Should Avoid It

When did having a dialogue become so rare?

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Why has the art of civilized debate and conversation become unheard of in daily life? Why is it considered impolite to talk politics with coworkers and friends? Expressing ideas and discussing different opinions should not be looked down upon.

I have a few ideas as to why this is our current societal norm.

1. Politics is personal.

Your politics can reveal a lot about who you are. Expressing these (sometimes controversial) opinions may put you in a vulnerable position. It is possible for people to draw unfair conclusions from one viewpoint you hold. This fosters a fear of judgment when it comes to our political beliefs.

Regardless of where you lie on the spectrum of political belief, there is a world of assumption that goes along with any opinion. People have a growing concern that others won't hear them out based on one belief.

As if a single opinion could tell you all that you should know about someone. Do your political opinions reflect who you are as a person? Does it reflect your hobbies? Your past?

The question becomes "are your politics indicative enough of who you are as a person to warrant a complete judgment?"

Personally, I do not think you would even scratch the surface of who I am just from knowing my political identification.

2. People are impolite.

The politics themselves are not impolite. But many people who wield passionate, political opinion act impolite and rude when it comes to those who disagree.

The avoidance of this topic among friends, family, acquaintances and just in general, is out of a desire to 'keep the peace'. Many people have friends who disagree with them and even family who disagree with them. We justify our silence out of a desire to avoid unpleasant situations.

I will offer this: It might even be better to argue with the ones you love and care about, because they already know who you are aside from your politics, and they love you unconditionally (or at least I would hope).

We should be having these unpleasant conversations. And you know what? They don't even need to be unpleasant! Shouldn't we be capable of debating in a civilized manner? Can't we find common ground?

I attribute the loss of political conversation in daily life to these factors. 'Keeping the peace' isn't an excuse. We should be discussing our opinions constantly and we should be discussing them with those who think differently.

Instead of discouraging political conversation, we should be encouraging kindness and understanding. That's how we will avoid the unpleasantness that these conversations sometimes bring.

By avoiding them altogether, we are doing our youth a disservice because they are not being exposed to government, law, and politics, and they are not learning to deal with people and ideas that they don't agree with.

Next Thanksgiving, talk politics at the table.

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