When we are hurt or going through a rough patch it is so easy to fall into the pit of not knowing your self-worth. We sit around drowning our brain with negative thoughts and wishing for things we do NOT need. Stop playing that sad song on repeat, stop watching tear-jerker movie and get out and do something. Or at least sit and think about all the amazing things you do have going for you.
Next time you are feeling like this try to think about what you do have in your life instead of fixating on what you lost.
Think about your career, school or whatever you have that you are working towards these days. Remember how much work you have put into your goals thus far and don't let anything throw that off track. People will come and go but what the rest of your life holds is patiently waiting for you.
And if you are just starting out with your goals remind yourself about the light at the end of the tunnel and everything will pay off. Just keep going, dig deep and use that drive.
Think about your family. Which for many is also your biggest support system. You know, the people with unwavering belief in everything you do? Your family has been there for you since day one. They know you, remember that. When your family is giving you advice no matter how backward it sounds it's coming from a good place.
Your family has seen you evolve, they understand your potential like no one else, trust their judgment. And always remember they are your blood and you have a bond to them like no one else.
Think about your friends. These are the people first in line to snap you out of your funk. Friends may live far and near but they are the first to show up when something bad happens.
They will remind you of your beauty, your strength and all the things you deserve in this world. But they are also the first to maybe give you the reality check that you desperately need. But most importantly they may be your best distraction. Don't segregate yourself from the world, reach out to friends they will help you through.
Think about your dreams. The things you never thought you could do. Take this time, these emotions and try to make them a reality. When something ends it is giving time for something new to blossom. Yes, you have careers and school or whatever else you do on a daily basis but there are bigger things you yearn for. That thing that you just assume could never happen because it isn't "practical" or whatever excuse you give yourself.
Why can't you do it? Take this time for self-discovery and see what else is out there for you.
But most importantly think about YOU. I truly believe everything happens for a reason and for some reason you needed to go through this. There is nothing wrong with you and this is just a little bump in the road in the comparison to everything you're going to do in life.
No one is more important than you reaching your goals or your own happiness. And you deserve to be happy. Sometimes we have to be selfish and put ourselves first to find our meaning. Don't feel guilty for that.
I am one of these people. I do tend to keep everything bottled in and just wreck my brain with pure negativity. But with a conscious effort, I am trying to think of all the good things I have in life. It will take time and it will not be easy. But I will get there.
You should try too. You are amazing, you are strong and you are resilient. But most importantly you are loved and cared for, you may just have to sit down and remind yourself about that sometimes.