Going Back Home For The Summer Is Stressful, But It's Important For Growth

Going Back Home For The Summer Is Stressful, But It's Important For Growth

It can be hard to be home from college, and even harder to spend the summer at home, but it's not all bad, I promise.


For as long as I can remember, I've spent my summers away at sleep-away camp. Since I was 10 years old, Great Barrington, MA has become my home. I was a camper and then a counselor. This year is different. I landed a dream internship in New York City that I simply couldn't pass up. What does this mean?

I'm home for the summer.

It's something I haven't done since I was a kid and that I have mixed emotions about. It signifies that I'm becoming more of an adult. I would love to go back to camp, but I have a future to look ahead to.

Instead of color war and dining halls, it's commuting and dinner meetings.

This isn't a typical summer when I can sit back and relax, it is one of growth. I'm excited about this opportunity but sad that I'm saying goodbye to my childhood. The other aspect of this is that I'm living at home. This can be a huge adjustment coming from college to back with my family. I'm used to independence and doing pretty much whatever I want. Now, I have to communicate with my parents about what I'm doing and where I'm going.

Life is getting real.

It isn't all college parties and late nights with my friends, it's spreadsheets and meetings. Just a small taste of what is ahead in my future, as I'm returning to college in three months. I'm longing for that sense of freedom and independence I have at school.

Parents have it rough too, though.

These babies that they've raised, are now turning into mini adults. My mom tends to say that she blinked and then I was grown up. It can be hard for them to balance how much they involve themselves and take a step back. It's a difficult balance as no one want to step on each other's toes.

The best thing you can do is to make a schedule for yourself.

I've found that there is a way to balance work and personal life. I know that I work about four days a week, which gives me three days to carve in time with friends. Getting adjusted to a new schedule is something we all have to do and practice for the real world. If you think about it, each semester you have a new schedule and classes that you have to adapt to, so it makes sense that you'll have to adapt to something else.

Remember to have fun.

At the end of the day, it is summer. This is a time that is supposed to be fun and somewhat relaxing. Take the time to spend at home, since you aren't there that much throughout the year. Visit with the people you love, as you're not always this close to each other. But also take time for you. Do things that you want to do, as this is your time off from the stresses of school.

Before you know it, you'll be back at school!

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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I Didn't Get An Internship This Summer Either, So Don't Beat Yourself Up Over It

Man don't worry about it. It's all good.


What college advisors and success coaches will always tell you is that connections are everything, which is true in really any field you may be studying. They'll say also that internships are crucial in gaining new connections in order for you to jump-start your career and by the end of your four or more years in college, you'd have a job or something lined up by the time you get out.

That's what we all want in the end so we try to get a head start on trying to find internships everywhere, sometimes not even fully reading into what the internship entails and ending up with ones we don't necessarily enjoy. As a fellow student who just finished his first year of college, trying to get an internship before school let out was the only thing on my mind. Giving my resume out left and right, I believe I accumulated over 15 internships that I applied to, but as you can guess by the title of this article, I didn't obtain any. Either I was denied, the position was terminated, or I straight up didn't hear back, and it sucks, but it's ok.

For everyone else in the same boat, don't beat yourself up about it. We only have one year down and most businesses don't take freshmen anyway. We're 19, maybe 20, years old. We're still young, thus we don't need to have to try and jumpstart our careers so soon, we still have a lot to learn. 3 more years of undergrad is a short time, but there's a lot to be learned between now and then.

What I say is go back to that part-time or seasonal job you had and make some good money. Unless you found an internship that pays compensation, not a lot of them pay well so go ahead and walk around your local mall with your resume under your arm and hand them out to any store you want too. This summer is your's for the taking so just because you couldn't get an internship, doesn't mean you can't still make the most of it.


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