When You Give A Girl A Sister

When You Give A Girl A Sister

You've made her life a little brighter and my laughs a little louder.

When you give a girl an older sister, you've changed her world for the better.

Giving a girl a sister is much more than one would realize. She now has someone to look up to, tell all her secrets, and annoy daily. You have given her someone to confide in and learn from.

Some girls are blessed with just one older sister, I was blessed with two. I have two bright and beautiful women to guide me through the ups and downs. I was given two women to learn from and navigate the waves of life with.

When you give a girl a sister, you've given her someone to blame for everything. Being the youngest sibling, you know your sisters will be blamed for everything before you (sorry guys!) It's okay, you'll laugh about it a few years down the road.

When you give a girl a sister, you've given her someone to argue with daily. Small bickering throughout the day is a given and it's typically about who has the bigger attitude that day. Giving a girl a sister gives her the opportunity to have her biggest fan and occasionally worst enemy all wrapped in one. Regardless of the fight, the next day you'll be texting each other to meet up for ice cream.

When you give a girl a sister, you've given her someone to recite entire movies with and sing at the top of her lungs in the car with. Giving a girl a sister involves giving her someone who can handle the weirdest aspects of her personality. You've given her someone she can eat an entire pizza in front of and not feel ashamed.

When you give a girl a sister you've given her a shoulder to lean on. Even if your sisters are more of the "rub some dirt on it, suck it up, and get over it" types like mine, they still know when you truly need them. They will be there the second you call, even if it's just to chug a bottle of wine.

When you give a girl a sister, you've given her a chance to grow. You've given her a hand to hold when life gets rocky and someone to laugh with at family parties. You've given her someone who understands how she's feeling simply by a look and she knows your bluffing face better than anyone.

When you give a girl a sister, you've given her a very judgmental, second mother. Her opinion on how you look, who you like, and even those you associate with will be important. Just trust me, she knows better than you may think.

When you give a girl a sister, you've given her someone to aid in boredom. When you have to go to the store for your parents or get the car cleaned, your sister is right there willing (not always) and able. You may have to bribe her now and again, but eventually she'll cave.

Giving a girl a sister is an important gift. It's a partner in crime, a best friend, and a role model wrapped in one.

I thank God every day for being given the sisters I was. I wouldn't be the young woman I am today without them. My sisters are my heroes, and I'd be lost without them.

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8 Truisms Of An Only-Child Childhood Everyone Else Should Know, Signed, An Only Child

But really.... do your parents actually have favorites?

As an only child, I feel it's important to give out a little PSA to correct all the stereotypes we sibling-less children have labeled on our backs.

1. We're not all spoiled

Like... yes, my parents gave me an iPhone. Five years after everyone else got one!! In fact, my parents made it their personal mission to avoid saying "yes" partly for their own satisfaction and partly to avoid raising the spoiled kid. Just because there's only one of us, doesn't mean our parents are gonna splurge their hard earned money on us.

2. It can get lonely

Mom and Dad have to work, the neighbor kids aren't always home, and back in the day, there wasn't Netflix and Snapchat to entertain us all day.

3. We used to worry about our kids not having aunts and uncles

This may sound silly but it was a legitimate concern. Who will spoil my kids since I will obviously refuse to? Will they have any cousins to play with? Will they have the large family gatherings I always wanted to have? That is a lot of pressure to put on your future spouse.

4. Vacations can be interesting

What's a girl to do when her parents want to sit on the condo patio, but she wants to go to the beach? It can be very hard to have back up in these situations, but they almost guarantee you to have excellent persuasive skills later on in life.

5. A lot of people in one place can overwhelm us

Yes, I want to be around people ALL the time. Yes, I also need my space because I was raised in a quiet household. Usually, we'll sneak into our rooms if a huge party is happening downstairs, it's just the way it's going to be.

6. Loud kids are scary but we want 6 of them.

Yes, other people's kids freak me out. Yes, I want a ton of them because first of all, if they are my kids they will be awesome and second of all, I gotta make up for my childhood.

7. We'll never understand what it is like to have more than 3 people living together in one house

How do fights work? Do you all eat dinner together? How often do you share things? Do you hang out as a family often? Do your parents really favorites, and how do you know? These are the questions we want to be answered!

8. And how can siblings fight one minute and be best friends the next?

This dynamic just makes zero sense. Can not compute. We will never understand, probably not even after we have kids of our own.

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Being The Oldest Child Is Both Liberating And Terrifying, But I Wouldn't Change It For The World

It has instilled in me the power to set an example for my brothers to follow.

As the oldest of three boys, I have often had to trailblaze a path for my brothers to follow. Every act that lead me to get in trouble, I was the first child to do so. I essentially laid the blueprint for my brothers on what to do and what not to do to get by our parents with ease. As the oldest, I have not had someone that I can confide with on “mature” and “adult” discussions, conundrums and debates. I have not had an individual that I can try and follow in their footsteps.

Personally, I have both enjoyed and had some levels of difficulty. It has dawned on me that not only am I acting for myself, but the actions I display are the ones that my younger brothers look up to and admire. Therefore I must display the best image of myself in order to ensure that they make the right decisions/actions during their development into adulthood.

Growing up as the firstborn has certainly had its perks.

The level of attention I receive is at times overwhelming from both my parents, especially going to a school several hundred miles away from them. They often check in on me, calling me at sporadic periods throughout the day to make sure I’ve gotten up and not missed my 8:30 a.m. class. This is nice and all, but at times it can be a bit much. You can agree with me, right?

At the same time, I am fully aware that my parents are doing it not to be annoying and at times embarrassing, but rather because it is scary sending your first child out into the world without a path to follow. Granted, my parents have both experienced great success in their lives and the path they have created for my family is certainly a bright one. However, they paved their path many years ago and unfortunately, the methods they used to cross this path may be somewhat obsolete for me.

At times, being the oldest is tough.

In terms of discipline, I certainly experienced it the hardest and with the most repercussions. Getting grounded was a common thing for me growing up, not necessarily because my actions were so juvenile, but rather because my parents were learning and adjusting their parenting styles. Now, my brothers rarely get grounded, for acts that would far surpass my mild middle-school phase. All and all I can live with it because, without my help, my brothers wouldn’t have learned the ropes on how to survive in our household.

At times it is liberating and at times it is terrifying, but being the oldest child is something I wouldn’t want to change. I learned how to go through life and grow up on my own accord, without having a big brother or sister there to guide me as I grew. It has allowed me to develop into the person I am today and has instilled in me the power of paving a path for success that one day my brothers will follow.

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