There are those girls with only friends that are girls, and then there's those girls who have a mix of the two, and then there's the girls who have a ton of guy friends. Some say it's because it's "less drama" and we've all seen the memes about that, but let's be real, there are so many more reasons that we love having a good group of guy friends around.
Let's set the record straight first we are friends with them because we like hanging out with them. Period end of story. We aren't friends with them because we have some sort of secret agenda to get with but it's because yes shockingly we have fun with them. With them we can be ourselves and have fun doing some of the stupidest things, not that we can't do that with girls but guys just come with the strangest things. Plus life talks with guys friends for some reason can get way deeper than I've ever had with one my girl friends. Guys are straight up and won't hold anything back.
Some of your friendships with guys start at a young age and either fizzle out or stay strong. others happen as you enter middle and high school. Let's face it girls can be caddy and rude sometimes so it's nice to have a group of guys to fall back on when you just don't want to deal with it or be around it. The best part is no matter how crazy life gets or if it seems like you are growing apart you never really do. You always pick up right from where you left off.
Being called "one of the bros" is an honor in itself. It's the boys way of saying they respect you and know that you can be trusted and that your cool and drama free unlike many of the girls they have encountered. For me these were my guy friends in high school. After a week or two of hanging out they started to refer to me and another friend as the bros. We were even added to the bro group text that ended up being all of us sending bad pictures to each other and making fun of each other.
But if this were to be a group of girls feelings would have been hurt, but with them there was no chance. As you become a bro and you spend more and more time with your guy friends they earn their own name, "the boys" or "my boys." The summer before college started my mom even caught on and would ask "so when are you going to hang out with the boys?" She didn't even have to ask who I was hanging out with and she didn't really care what I was doing because she knew being with a group of guys I'd probably do something stupid but they would protect me if need be. Want to go to the park at 11 p.m. or take he hour drive to the mountain? yeah sure why not was usually the answer. But even when you go away to college you don't keep in touch but the minute you see each other it's as if you saw each other two days ago.
Then there are those guy friends that you meet and instantly click with. You can be sassy and crack jokes with them with not even having to worry about feelings being hurt. Your conversations just flow even if you've only known them for a day or 2. They make fun of you and you make fun of them but you know they'd never mean it. Their friendships happen fast but last longer than you could really ever expect. these guy friends in college are especially helpful. They keep an eye out for you and tell you straight up when you're being stupid, making a mistake or being played. they are like your protective big brother that you thought you left at home. But they will make sure that you have a good time and have enough space to make a few mistakes.
Every girl that has guy friends always gets asked the question so which one do you like or are you guys dating? We all just laugh and have that you're joking face on and then we realize that they aren't and we have to set them straight but once you say no we are just friends you get the uh huh sure you're just friends with a wink. So you really have to reassure them that yo are just friends and it gets on your nerves more than anything. However the do make awesome dates to dances and formals.
Being friends with a group of guys has to come with a few warning signs and things you have to be prepared for.
-You will be the wing woman, you will be expected to find out if a girl is interested in them through girl talk and such
-Guys may think that you're either taken or interested in one of your guy friends
-You'll eventually have no boundaries
-Things that many people find gross or inappropriate no longer bother you
-Girls will ask you anything and everything about your guy friends. especially if they are interested.
-They have made you extremely calm and low maintenance, that's okay!
-When you do get a boyfriend try to remember that although it's great to be best friends with your significant other at the start he isn't your bro
However you have to use the boys to your advantage at some points. After all you'll help them get dates so make them help you get dates. But do them a favor help them plan the date, don't let them embarrass themselves. It's very give and take. people will never be able to understand how and why you get along with guys so well and you can't explain it you just do. You can't live with them but you can't live without them. Your guy friends are loyal, funny, caring (sometimes), crazy, and something you find anywhere you end up but are people you'll never forget. I wouldn't change my guy friends being a bro for anything.
