To the girls who have been broken down and are in the process of being built back up:
I'm not going to make this an open letter because I realize there is some sort of stigma around open letters but this will serve as my message to the girls who are going through it.
Time heals all wounds and you can count on that fact.
For girls in their late teens and early twenties, someone has probably broken your heart some time recently. The amount of women I've met in the last year that are hurting over a boy is overwhelming and honestly disappointing.
Stop hurting over someone who doesn't care about you. Girls give each other advice on love and heartbreak all the time and this is me publicly announcing that the boy that broke all your hearts, does not care about you so you need to move on. It's harsh but it's true.
If he cheated on you, he doesn't care. If he didn't try to make it work, he doesn't care. If he keeps doing things you ask him not to do, he doesn't care. Women as a whole need to learn that when he's doing things that make you question if he cares it's because he doesn't!
No man is worth crying over because no amount of tears in the world are gonna make him a better person and that's just reality. Either take a break from dating or find someone who won't give you any reasons to cry.
It's 2018 and it's time for women to realize what's good for them. It took me a year and 8 months to realize the person I was with didn't care about me but I did it and so can you.
You're broken now but you won't be this way forever. Yes, your guard may be up higher and it may take you a while to be able to show vulnerability again but the day will come.
This message isn't meant to be dramatic or to be a jab at all men but it is meant to say that pain and grief are temporary emotions. The breakup you just went through with the boy you thought you were gonna marry is the first of many.
I may sound like a hypocrite because if you know me, you know how difficult it was for me to end my toxic relationship but I finally did it and I haven't been as happy as I am now in the past 2 years. But I'm able to speak on the subject because I know what it's like.
You'll find someone who cares about you equally as much as you care about them but don't rush it.
