Ok girls, listen up. This one’s for you. You are pretty, you are loved, you are wanted, you are capable, and you are so much more. Because of this you don’t need a man by your side to be happy or successful. Wanting and needing are two completely different feelings. To want is to appreciate, understand, and choose. To need is to have an urgent necessity that must be fulfilled as soon as possible. And so, I urge you to be careful. You do not need a man, but you can want one.
To need a man is like saying you need oxygen. The difference being you actually need oxygen to survive, but you definitely don’t need a man to breath. Everyone, yes everyone, has gone at least 12 years of their life without a significant other. I know that seems young, but now everything happens much, much earlier. From the moment you were born to around 12 years old you never had a man by your side besides your father, and that’s really all you wanted and needed. For all of those years, you felt pretty, loved, wanted, and capable all with the help of friends and family, that’s it! Why should any other age or be any different?
To all the girls that jump from relationship to relationship, take some time for yourself. Be alone, build up your self-confidence and learn to be on your own for a little while.
To all the girls waiting around for a relationship; don’t wait around for a guy to like you; it will either happen on its own or its not meant to be, don’t force anything
To all the girls who are happy with themselves and happily in a relationship; I applaud you.
Don’t get me wrong, guys do make life a lot more enjoyable, but make sure you figure out what you WANT versus what you NEED before investing in a relationship. And please, for the love of God, don’t let that relationship consume your life.
Yes, I do believe in fate, true love, marriage, and all that jazz; but I also believe in self-confidence. And yes, if you were wondering, you can have both. Girls don’t need boys but you can want them and you can have them.
I want women to be happy about themselves from themselves. Yes, you do need other people in your life to make you feel whole sometimes but that’s only sometimes. Make time for yourself, your friends, your family, and surround yourself with light hearted and happy people that make you a better person. Don’t let anyone drag you or your self-esteem down. It’s not worth the heartache, the tears, or the calories.
What I’m trying to say here is nothing new. Listen to your gut, know your own heart, live your life, keep loved ones close, have fun, cherish every moment, don’t rush things, take time for yourself, reflect, and as Justin Bieber wrote, “Love Yourself.”
