Men always tend to think that women are the most complicated creatures on the planet, and in reality that's not true. Most girls don't need a lot. Wants and needs are two completely different things, and once in a relationship, things should only get better. So, pay close attention and I will give you all the tools needed to figure out a girl.
Being the girl that I am, I haven't found myself in a happy relationship anywhere these days. I don't know why I run into the same issues. The problem I've seen constantly is, people are selfish. They don't want to take the time to get to know someone. They're always too busy. I am young and I have all the time in the world to find the "one".
1. TAKE TIME.
No matter what it is, whether it be sending a little text message saying, "I miss you" or taking the time to plan a small date; time is all it takes. It may be true that girls are indecisive, but... that is a problem that can be fixed with a simple solution of being straight forward.
2. CONSISTENCY IS KEY.
You don't want to be with someone one day, and then find them not replying to your text messages or returning your calls. Which brings me to my next point.
3. COMMUNICATE.
If you feel a certain way, there is no sense in keeping things bottled up. Let your person know how you feel. I have had a problem with being able to balance out having time for myself, work, and school. Those things alone are a lot to deal with, then you add trying to get into a relationship on top of that... it's hard. The saying, "You make time for the things you want to make time for" may not always apply to you and your situation, but I have found it to be true over and over.
4. BE HONEST.
Girls want to be told the truth, even if it isn't the truth... make it sound like it is. Boys should not just go around telling their girlfriends they look fat in something, obviously. But, she took the time getting ready and looking good, you should a least acknowledge it. I think the worst is when a guy asks me how my day was or how I'm doing and I tell him, and he doesn't say anything or says something like "cool". I would never want to talk to him again, because he doesn't sound interested.
I would hope most of these things are common sense, but for those of you (including myself) that are having some troubles theses are some things that may help.
5. CARE.
If you don't care, I don't care. And you can always tell when someone doesn't care, as much as you want to convince yourself they do... they don't. Oh, and boys be nice.. girls love a sweet guy.
This may have been more about relationships than about girls, but it's a girl's perspective. And, I know God is somewhere building me the perfect guy, and knowing that I'm OK waiting for him.
