Okay, sometimes we check your horoscope to make sure our zodiacs are compatible. Or we start to day dream of what our life would be if you were the one—but honestly, it's only because we've been brainwashed since birth to think that's the only way we could EVER be happy.
First off, not to throw the female card, but you have no idea how hard it is to be a girl. I have watched insecurities ruin the lives of the most beautiful women in my life. I have seen insecurities destroy relationships, careers, and goals. I have seen insecurities be the reason why people have to tear others down, just to have a fake sense of confidence.
I have seen insecurities be the reason why most girls have eating disorders. Many women our age would probably never admit it, but I promise you every girl knows what it feels like to starve until you feel like you don't know what's worse, the headache from the lack of food, or how your stomach feels like it might fail as an organ.
I have seen insecurities be the reason why girls skip breakfast, lunch and dinner, just to inhale food the second they are drunk. I kid you not, I was in a dorm with two bathrooms, and three girls were forcing themselves to throw up before going to hook up with their booty call. THERE ARE ONLY TWO BATHROOMS!
Do you know how much makeup we wear and how long it takes? I am expected to spend thousands of dollars just on my skin care routine, and don't even get me started in lash extensions. Every hair appointment is at least $280, and that's if you don't want someone to fuck up your hair. While my mind is consumed about my appearance expectations, you want me to smile, because other wise I have a bitch face? You have got to be kidding me.
Don't get me wrong, dressing up is really fun, but only on my terms. Not when I am expected to look a certain way. I love playing stripper twerking music while I'm caking on my face with my girlfriends, but other than that, it's honestly kind of miserable. I literally feel my pores crying and drowning in my Tarte concealer.
Okay I get it, we come off as crazy, but honestly being a female is crazy.
Hear me out.
Girls are SO MUCH COOLER one on one, and it's a shame it takes us a while to be our true selves around guys. We are so worried to make the wrong impression we hide in our layers of foundation and fake lashes. We are so scared that if you see how much Disney we watch you might think we are still immature. Or worse, when we do open up and our insecurities are thrown around during arguments.
Like it's my fault I have a messed up family, and the reason why I'm not emotionally available is not because I'm texting 4 other guys, but because I have been the parent to my parents.
No wonder girls are crazy, wouldn't you?
We joke about Daddy Issues keeping us "warm at night", but I know a lot of guys who know too damn well, how empty it feels to want recognition from the one person who is always on "business trips". Guys try so hard to be better guys than their fathers, and blame their fathers for not setting a good example, when all they had to do was become a better example.
Next time you think a girl is crazy, can you take a moment and realize your own insecurities, and how you're dealing with them. Some of us suck at dealing with our issues, so we try to bury it with excessive Nordstrom trips, and endless online shopping. We hide our true selves behind our Dior sunglasses, and hope that our Loui wallets help us not cry when someone asks us "what's wrong".
We are all trying to become better people, and sometimes it takes us a little longer than others, but that doesn't mean that we each deserve to be treated like we are insane. Sometimes, some people trigger the worse in us, and sometimes we latch on to the idea of someone that we feel as if we let go, we let go of the memories we have given to that person.
We are not crazy. We are not crazy for talking about our feelings or being dramatic. We are not crazy for expecting guys to be able to behave like a decent human.
