I know you don't want to believe it right now, but, girl, you need to listen.

I know you think he's charming and handsome, and clearly, he has good taste because he's going after you. He says all the right things; he makes you blush furiously and with just a few words he makes you feel like the only girl in the room. I know it's appealing, who wouldn't think so? Maybe you're getting close. Maybe you feel like this flirtatious back and forth you have going on with one another is actually going somewhere. You know his favorite color and his favorite drink when he goes out, you know the video games he likes and the music he listens to when he's chilling in his room.

At some point or another, he became your go to; when you're drunk crying after a night out with the girls, when you need a good laugh, or when you just can't sleep. He's always the one you're thinking of.

I just have to ask: are you his go to?

Are you sure?

Don't pretend you don't see him eyeing other girls when you and the gang go out together. Don't act like it doesn't tear you up inside when you realize he's wandered off with someone, someone that's definitely not you. Stop justifying him leaving you on read time and time again, even when you know he's not busy.

Does he bail on plans often? Does he make up some lame excuse every time just to repeat it again? Does he call you up to talk about anything of substance or because he misses your voice? Or are his phone calls only reserved for when he wants you over at his place?

And I get it, maybe he's not a bad guy! Maybe he's been a good friend when you really need him and you want to see where things go. Maybe he just can't make up his mind on what he wants- but do you really want to be stuck in the middle of someone else's indecisive tendencies?

I bet he doesn't know your favorite color or what your favorite drink is. I bet he's never asked to hear the music you listen to when you're alone or called to make sure you got back to your place alright. I bet when you raise the question of what exactly you two are he gets flustered, heated, and he makes you feel shitty.

Girl, if you have to ask what exactly y'all are doing, he's so not into you.

If he was into you he'd make his intentions known. He'd try to get to know you better and actually retain the information. He'd make you feel wanted and give you his attention whenever and freely, not just when you two are alone. He'd take you on a date, he'd make legitimate plans, he'd do something more set in stone than an "I'll see you when I see you."

You're so caught up in the idea of him, of the guy you think he is. You don't see how it's consuming you, how it's making you feel awful more than he's made you feel good. You've been crying over a guy that's probably been making some other girls feel exactly the same way.

He's only into you when it's convenient for him, not when it matters most.

Here's a wake-up call: I think it's time you leave him alone.