A lot of my friends have come to me seeking advice on boys and honestly I don't know why. There seems to be this universal dilemma between girls when it comes to boys. I would love for someone to tell me where this epidemic started, so maybe the girl population could go and end it. Boys will say all these sweet things to you, tell you they like you and then either leave you for another girl or disappear all in general.
Boys will see this sweet, caring passionate girl and charm her until she is totally hooked. Then they will take you out and make you feel like your the only girl in the world, up until the end of the date. I have had guys say that they want to show me how they are different and how they are going to treat me better than any guy could. I know I am not the only one that's heard this, or had the problem that comes after. They make a move on you that crosses the line, but you brush it off like it is fine and then they push it over the limit and you finally say no.
Once they realize that they can't get away with what they want with you, that charm disappears. They wanted some girl they could have no commitment to and realized you weren't like that, so they are gonna go find a girl that is. Not only that, but I have been on dates were my accomplishments intimidate a boy and he didn't know how to handle it. I asked one boy who left me and then came back, why he left in the first place. His answer? He was afraid of getting attached and that his feelings were so strong he got nervous.
Being the girl that all guys need, actually isn't a good thing anymore, they are afraid of the commitment. They want something easy, especially over the summer and in college. What is so wrong with being the girl that goes the extra mile? Honestly and why don't guys man up and say what they really want? I honestly thought I was cursed for the longest time, that kissing a guy good night was a death kiss. That or there was a sign on my head that read, "lie to me, say you like me and then take it back." I am not the one at fault, though, the only thing that needs to change about me is my skincare routine, because your girl has been spending way too much time crying over these boys.
Also quick little add on, in my dating experience if he has an ex-girlfriend he has referred to more than twice, run. He is not over her, I don't care what he says. Don't tell yourself "It's different this time" cause it's not. Also if he compares you to her, run. I just recently went on a date where he said, I was prettier than his ex and I hated that. Do not compare me to another girl, that is a competition I did not sign up for.
Us girls got to stick together and don't get down about being single, somethings aren't worth the stress. Know your worth, you wouldn't put regular gas in a Ferrari.
