When you fall, you fall hard.
It's a blessing and a curse. You have a pretty tough shell protecting your heart, but once a boy manages to squeeze his way in there, you're hopeless. As soon as you realize that there's real potential there, you start daydreaming about what life could be like with him. You think about future dates, all the cute pictures you'll take, and yes, what life would be like if you got married.
And that's what makes it so hard when you get your heart broken. You don't just lose the guy, you lose the whole future you had imagined for yourself. You just can't help yourself from falling so deeply each time.
But loving someone deeply shouldn't be a weakness. Sitting there and dreaming about what life would be like with the boy you're starting to fall for should be exciting. It shouldn't cause a pit in your stomach because you remember the last boy you fell for and all the ways your relationship went wrong.
Falling head over heels for someone can be difficult because you know how strongly you feel about someone, without knowing if they feel that strongly about you, too. And no one wants to be that girl that comes off as clingy super fast. No one wants to be THAT girl that has to ask "Sooooo, do you like me?" "Where do you see this going?" Boys are horrible about mixed signals, and girls like us can't help but overthink every little thing. So how do you figure out if he feels the same way about you?
The unfortunate answer to this question is patience. I hate the fact that patience is key, but it is. Girls like us tend to want everything to start moving faster as soon as we decide that we could see a relationship going somewhere, but boys suck at realizing when you're flirting with them and they miss the most obvious hints you drop to try to tell them you like them without really telling them. So the only thing left to do is wait it out and see if he feels the same way.
Falling in love is just as terrifying as it is exciting. Here you are, thinking about someone nonstop, and you have no earthly idea if they feel the same way. And even if you do know they're interested, you're sure they're not as deeply invested as you are. That's scary. You can't just be all "Hey, I know we've only been on a few dates, but I'm so into you that I'd pretty much follow you anywhere. In fact, I have a whole future planned out for us." It sounds psycho, right? But that's what happens when you fall head over heels. When you know, you know. And it always feels like girls fall so much deeper, so much quicker, than guys do. But with time, their feelings usually catch up.
So boys, JUST SPEAK YOUR MIND. We drive ourselves crazy wondering how you really feel. You wanna take things slow? Tell us. You're starting to fall for her and you think she's amazing? Say it. You wanna put a label on the relationship? Spit it out. I guarantee your girl is always wondering how you really feel, and there's no better feeling than just having everything out in the open without having to tiptoe around each other's feelings. Girls want to be reassured that they're not just a way to pass the time, but that you actually see a future with them.
Because girls who don't know how to love halfway, girls who are all in, deserve to have that kind of love returned to them. Girls, you deserve to have a boy who is just as crazy about you as you are about him. You deserve a boy who thinks about a future with you, too. You deserve a guy who is able to tell you he wants you and all you have to offer, or a guy who's man enough to tell you he's not feeling it.
When you find that boy, loving deeply will be a gift to your relationship. You'll have someone who cherishes the way you feel so much about him. So don't be discouraged. Keep dreaming about that boy, but give him time to realize that he feels the same way about you. You deserve to be cherished, to be told what you mean to him, not left hanging wondering how he really feels. Your big heart is a gift, not a weakness, when you give it to the right one.
