I have spent a good portion of my life trying to make relationships work with people who, in all honesty, should have never been given my time or effort. This doesn't mean they're bad people, just clearly not good for me. All throughout high school I always wanted what I couldn't have. I wanted the guy who didn't like me, or if he did, he also liked several other girls. I liked the challenge of having to prove myself to someone along with the satisfaction of when/if they finally came around. It has taken me a little bit longer than I would like to admit, to realize that having this mindset is not healthy, does not create happiness, and will never give you the outcome that you hope for.
You are an awesome person. If anyone makes you feel anything less than that, forget about them. If someone does not see you for who you are and immediately appreciate it, you are under no obligation to change that. There are going to be people who don't like, understand or accept you. That's just a part of life. It is not your job to try to please those people in hopes that they will change their mind and see the "real you".
If you like who you are, those who are supposed to be in your life, will like it too. It's that simple. Of course I realize it's easier said than done, but why? I don't know about you but I'm tired of caring so much about what other people think. I'm sick of losing sleep over someone not texting me. I'm exhausted from feeling down because I rubbed someone the wrong way. Too often we let people stay in our lives that we should have never let enter as more than an acquaintance in the first place. If someone does not make you happy, help you grow or uplift you, they should have no place in your mind or your heart.
There's the infamous quote that says "we accept the love we think we deserve". Well I don't think that's always true. I think we often know we deserve better but aren't always willing to hold out for that kind of love. We settle for what isn't good for us because it excites us. This goes along with the issue of girls who think they can change men. Even if you can, you shouldn't have to. If the guy is worth your time he will know he needs to change on his own, but I know I'm preaching to the choir on this one.
The fact of the matter is if someone does not make you happy, why should you waste your time trying to make them happy? If someone brings you more misery, sadness, stress, anxiety, insecurity, etc. than they do happiness, it's due time to let them go. If they don't need you, you should not need them. If they don't want you, you sure as hell should not want them. You know what you deserve, stop settling for someone that you think could one day, maybe, possibly, have the potential to be just that. You're a catch, and the right person will see that all on their own.
