A Letter To My Future G-Little

A Letter To My Future G-Little

Welcome to the family
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Dear future grandlittle,

If I did not get the chance to tell you yet…welcome to our sisterhood.

Most importantly, welcome to the family, our family. I am so excited to welcome you into our arms and to be able to be here for your sorority experience.

Your soon-to-be big will be the best big to you as she was the best little to me. She has qualities that push me to be a better person every day. The qualities she sees in you are what I saw in her when I first met her.

I have ten things I want to tell you as we await for your Big-Little reveal.

1. I am utterly obsessed with you.

My little chose you and loves you and so, therefore, I love you just as much. You are going to be so spoiled (in a good way) by me and your big. I spoiled your big, and you will, therefore, be spoiled.

2. I’m not that old, so we can still hang out.

I may be your grand-big, but I can still hang…most of the time.

3. Get involved with the chapter.

Being involved with the chapter brings you so much closer to the sisterhood. Whether you hold a position in the house or attend every single event, just make sure you are involved. I can’t stress how important it is. When I joined our organization my freshman year, I attended everything I possibly could. It made me realize how much I loved being a member and how I couldn’t wait to be more involved in the next three years after my freshman year.

4. Your sorority family is always here for you.

Your sorority family is here to make you feel like you are at home while in college. We are here to help you create those bonds with the sorority. We are here to support everything you and your little do together.

5. I will let you and your big blossom into the big-little relationship you wish to have.

A big-little relationship is one of the most important relationships you can have in college. I will let you and your big develop your relationship without me being around all the time. I have seen my little grow and become a wonderful woman with amazing insights on life. I want you and her to have the relationship that I have with my big and that your big and I have.

6. Your big is someone you should always go to.

My big was and is someone I could go to vent to and to talk to. Your big is someone that you should see as that person. Your big will not judge you; she will always listen to you; she is the person that you can always turn to.

7. Your big will always be your big.

No matter what happens, if you and your big have a small argument, or if you get frustrated with one another, you will get through it. Your big is your big and that is something you should always remember.

8. I hope that having my little as your big will make you fall in love with our sisterhood even more.

Your big is an inspiration to me. She shows me things that I don’t see. She shows me that the LITTLE things do matter and to appreciate everything that I have. Your big is my hero, and I hope she will be yours.

9. Your big will be your mentor, your guide, your best friend.

My big (your great grand-big) has been all three of these to me. And I can only hope that I have been that to your big. I can’t wait to see you and your big create the bonds that will give you the relationship that I have with her. You will see your big as your mentor, guide, and best friend; it’s a possibility it won’t happen right away, but it will happen.

10. Your big will love you more than anything.

Your big will love you unconditionally. You are her little, and she is your big. Your relationship is one of the most amazing and important ones in your sorority experience.

Welcome to the family, G-Little. I can’t wait to meet you.

Love,

Your future G-big

Cover Image Credit: Melissa Ung

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Making a Decision: an Indecisive Guide

To all the indecisive people out there: you are not alone

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I am the queen of indecision. For me, making a choice will have me frantically calling both of my parents, asking all of my friends' advice and postponing all studying until the decision is made. Of course, this is because I do not want to make a choice that I regret – such as the time I decided that starting my job at 6:30 am would be a good idea, or the time when I scared my friends with how hyper I was after drinking both coffee and Boba tea. Yet when I take this caution of making the wrong choice too far, the decision-making process itself ends up being regrettable. So much so that I called my mom approximately seven times this weekend to ask her advice on a decision. So much so that my brother used an example of me not being able to choose what kind of shoe I should wear in his article.

This weekend, I was presented with two amazing opportunities to make a difference in the world this summer and I entered a stage of decision paralysis that I did not know was possible. No matter which angle I looked at each situation from, they both would provide me with a phenomenal experience, and would both require sacrifices. Despite not (as of yet) reaching a concrete decision, I learned a lot about the decision-making process and what to do in the next time I am faced with a difficult choice. So, in the spirit of finding summer jobs, gearing up to register for classes and deciding what on earth we want to do with our futures, here are the tips and tricks that I would follow to make the best decision that you can.

Don't overthink it.

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Really, this goes without thinking! Or, unlike most of us, it goes with a LOT of thinking! Seriously though, if you overthink things, they will turn into a pudding mush in your brain until you don't know what you don't know anymore. There is a very fine line between thinking through all your options and overthinking them – and judging by the number of times I called my mom this weekend, definitely crossed it.

Always use the pro-con list

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Ah, the Gilmore Girls. Not only did you inspire me to read every single book under the sun or have a witty conversation full of cultural references no one else understands, but you also taught me the beauty of the pro-con list. Choosing what you want can be messy and difficult to find because of the fears you might have. distinguish from the fears. Writing it all down on paper can often illuminate the right decision and show you which path is ultimately better.

Decide on your make-or-break factor

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Sometimes even the best pro-and-con lists will not be enough and will leave you in a frantic analysis ("should I go for the decision with 3 cons or 3.5 cons?") When even the Gilmore method fails, fear not! Consider which factors you truly do not want to compromise on and go from there. This can mean that even the worse decision may be the right one for you.

Trust your gut

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As much as it is difficult to dig through your feelings to find your true motives behind a decision, your gut can sometimes tell you what you are most passionate about and therefore what decision is best for you to take. As my Emory Reads friends tell me, passion trumps everything. Choosing which decision aligns with your values will often lead you to make the best and most-satisfying decision.

But trust your head as well

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But your gut can't always be trusted. It can lie to you, and when you overthink too much, it can change its mind. Your gut feeling may be one that is furthermore borne out of fear of the other option. In that way, I have made many a good decision based on the pure basis of rationality. Using only our heart to make important decisions allows fear to be one of the factors, whereas looking at the decision rationally can help you see the ultimate path.

Ask around

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When I am puzzled about making a risky decision, I often consult the people in my life who are on my side and want the best for me. These people can help you gauge what your heart truly desires, bring up factors that you haven't considered and even act as a support network for you while making this decision. When your mind kicks into over-analysis, sometimes a fresh perspective is all you need to truly make a confident choice. Decisions are hard, people. Don't make them on your own.=

Don't ask everyone

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There is such a thing as consulting others to make an important decision, and there is such a thing as relying on them to make your decision. If you ask too many people from too wide a pool, you'll end up having opinions for and against what you are proposing, which means that someone will always be disappointed in your decision. The bottom line is, asking too many people for their opinions is frustrating, no matter what – whether they have contradicting opinions, or they just nod their heads and go "hmmm, tough choice" (thanks, I guess?). In order to avoid frustration, consult the people in your life who know you the best and are dearest to you, rather than the stranger in front of you in line for fries at the DUC.

"Would my dad be proud?"

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Or your granddad, or your mom, or your professor, or even a TV character. Whoever you know whose morals you can measure your decision up to will often provide reason and illumination. If the decision you are making is not too wild and you feel that you will have their approval, then it is likely not detrimental.

Stick with your decision!

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Resolutely make up your mind and refuse to turn back. Exercise your right as a free individual to make a choice for yourself, and then do not second-guess it. Please don't do what I did and email a company two days later saying you've changed your mind. Please.

There is not always a right decision

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Sometimes both decisions you are presented with have different but equally good opportunities. In that case, lucky you! You have two amazing opportunities and therefore cannot mess up. Rather than stressing that you are picking the wrong choice, know that you cannot go wrong in either.

Realize you will grow no matter what

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Decision-making should be viewed as a challenge and a privilege rather than a burden. Make big, bold and beautiful decisions. Making up your mind can lead to a phenomenal experience that you will adore or a difficult experience that will only fashion you into a better person. Positive consequences can come out of any decision, even if we land in an upsetting position. Each choice we make can positively contribute to our character, fashioning us into the person we are becoming, day by day.


By the time this article is published, I will know my decision. And hopefully, by the end of this article, you will know yours. Let's continue to make decisions courageously, following both our heads and our hearts. Let's be determined to grow through our decisions, realizing that we have made the best choice we could, and never looking back.

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