I didn't come out when I had my first serious relationship. I didn't come out when people felt that they already knew. I also didn't have a sit down with my family and friends because I needed them to know something about me that is not their business; And neither should you. Society has made homosexuality out to be such a horrible thing because of the "normal" traditions of a man and a woman. I love my family and friends and I'd do anything for them of course, but why do I have to spend an unnecessary amount of time with my loved ones telling them something that does not really have an affect on their lives? Yes, I'm a boy who likes other boys, and this is the closest you'll get to a coming out story. My family and friends found out about me when I decided to bring my boyfriend, at the time, home for the weekend from college. Were some of them shocked? Yes, but did I care? Not one bit.
Let me be clear, you don't have to tell anyone your business unless you want them to know. When I brought my boyfriend home, holding his hand, I wasn't thinking about how anyone would feel, I was focusing on how I would feel. You want to know something? I was happy. When I went years knowing who I was, I wasn't hiding anything from anyone. I was just being myself and happy. I totally understand those who aren't that brave to do what I did. Some people wait years until they come out to anyone; some don't come out at all. I was the guy who was accepted by all groups of people because all I cared about was being happy so I stayed around other happy people. I was social, I played sports, I was in student organization groups. No, I'm not at the annual Pride parades, or apart of the GSA. But would I join them if I had the time? Yes, of course.
When you go into a job interview, social gathering, or anything involving meeting new people, you don't introduce yourself by stating your sexuality. Why? Because it doesn't matter to anyone, but yourself. Now I understand that everyone is afraid of what others think of them, especially their own family, but why? If someone doesn't accept something about you that you find an important part of you, then why keep them around? If your family or friends or anyone for that matter that doesn't want you around because of who choose to love, cut them out and move on.
When you're straight, you never hear stories of anyone sitting their loved ones down and exclaiming their interests in the opposite sex, so why should anyone else do it?
