From The Girl Who Said She'd Never Join A Sorority

From The Girl Who Said She'd Never Join A Sorority

From having no sisters, to more than fourty, I couldn't be happier

During my senior year of high school many of the girls in my class would gush about what sorority they were going to join. I would sit there and laugh at how serious they were about it because Greek Life just wasn't something I saw myself getting into. I'd seen it on the movies and while it looked fun, it also looked like something I wouldn't find myself fitting in to. I didn't think I had what it took to be a "sorority girl." From seeing Legally Blonde to The House Bunny, I knew there was no way I'd ever join a sorority.

But then my first month of college rolled around and many of my friends going through formal recruitment would get dressed up at night and go to the houses to meet their potential new sisters and I would sit in my dorm eating pizza and watching Law & Order. But then after rush was over and the girls had picked their prefs and the houses had picked theirs, bid day came. Watching those girls run home to their new life-long sisters was eye opening to me.

They took it so seriously when they yelled out their names and stood with open arms to take in their new sisters. But formal recruitment was over and I had missed my chance. Until I was walking back from class and there was a table near the university center that read TRI SIGMA in big, bold, purple letters. I was greeted by a few Sigmas as they were trying to informally recruit girls for their brand new chapter on my campus.

I thought long and hard about joining because it was something I'd originally said I'd never do. But after going to the events and getting to know these wonderful ladies, I realized just how much of an impact joining a sorority could have on my life. So on September 22nd, I ran home to the greatest group of women I'd ever met. And I gained 43 sisters, when I originally had none. I'm now serving as a member of the Public Relations & Social Media committee, and one of the members of the Website committee.

For me, the thought of joining a sorority was a little intimidating and scary. I wasn't the type of girl to wear dresses and heels and go on retreats with sisters. In fact, I had even been told I didn't have nice enough clothes to be in a sorority. But here I am now, months later in a sorority of empowering women, and loving every minute of it. So yes, I am a sorority girl, and I'm so proud to be a Tri Sigma.

To those who wanted to join, or still want to, really consider it. It can be one of the most eye opening experiences that last a life time. And hey, you even gain a bunch of new sisters that you'll have forever.

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College Life: Getting a job to Survive or Suffer to get a job

"Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life." -Confucius (Yeah Right.)

To work to pay your bills or to work to begin your career path? Although this is a question that haunts most working people, it's most obvious to the struggling college student.

Being a college student doesn't only mean stressing over papers or eating ramen noodles everyday, but also trying to find ways on how to make it day-to-day with the continuous increased cost of transportation, food, and essential (and sometimes not) products. And with being able to pay for all of these everyday needs comes the questions on how broken, tired, and often ready to give up students are going to be able to afford all of this. The answer seems simple: go find a job! Anywhere will do as long as you're still in school, still living under your parents roof, and if you have no desire to do anything beyond that job.

Oops, that last part slipped out, but now that we're talking about it, it's true. By no means do I mean that you can't find a rewarding job/career in a retail or customer service job, especially since they will most definitely help you pay your bills, but you will have spent all this time in college and, possibly, graduate school just to stay and end up in the same job that has been helping you pay your bills since day one of freshman year? This is the problem: it's ingrained in society and in our minds that to get a well-paying job in the field that we studied we have to get an internship (mostly unpaid or for credit), be able to show that we were busy by either volunteering and/or getting involved on-campus (again all unpaid for), and even going above and beyond with that one professor that you work so closely your work becomes an independent study (again unpaid for).

Do you see the pattern here? Everything that requires us to get a well-paying and rewarding job after four years of stress, contemplating dropping out, and the occasional hiding away from the world is UNPAID! Which, just to bring us full circle, means we can't pay for our everyday necessary things that, you know, only keeps us alive. (Insert sarcastic and obvious eye roll here).

There are so many memes about applying for an entry-level job but needing 6+ years of experience. That's one part of the job-market problem, but even if we're able to get that job that can pay enough, it usually takes a toll on our school and study time. Now, if you're that type of person that can ace an exam without studying or write a twenty-page research paper right before class, congrats. But that's not the case with most of the student spectrum, so what's your decision? Getting a job to be able to live or get a job that is going to add some spice to your resume?

My answer to that is I don't know. What are we supposed to do? When someone finds the answer please let me know! But in the mean time just hang in there. Figure out what your priorities are and what you can do to make sure you're still taking care of yourself.

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What I Learned After My First Year Of Adulthood

I would lying if I said nothing has changed.

This month, I will be turning 19. I am no longer an adult novice nor yet an expert to adulthood. It is a time where I get to enjoy the last few drops of childhood and say "Hello world, it's Pareena Sharma".

You will always be able to find me watching Disney princess movies, singing "Let It Go", and studying to the soundtrack of every Pixar movie. But, there is no hiding it; I have my own credit card, a job, a car and I no longer have to put Mister or Miss before the name of every adult I encounter.

I have inevitably transitioned a lot this year. So during this time of reflection, I would like to share what I have learned about adulthood during my first year of being an official 'adult'.

1. You gotta toughen up and start calling the shots

When you were a kid, most likely other people were making decisions for you: what to eat, when to sleep, maybe even what to wear. It is easy to forget that you are the one calling the shots now and just follow along with others. But when you are an adult you gotta make decisions for yourself. You have to remember that your opinions are of value and that you and your health come before all else.

2. Take initiative, but be mindful of other ideas

As much as you should learn to take initiative for yourself, you should also learn how to mindfully consider other ideas. Being a young adult can be empowering and sometimes this empowerment can turn into stubbornness. One great part of becoming an adult is that people are willing to listen to you, and with that comes the responsibility of listening to others. If you come across a disagreement, rather than being determined to prove the other side wrong, open your mind to all the possibilities.

3. Respect is earned by how you carry yourself

After reaching adulthood you may find that people respect and notice you more. It feels fantastic when other adults consider your input and presence for a change. But do not give all the credit to your age. As you get older, it is not just the number you have been assigned that deems you this new street cred. It is the experiences you have gained and the actions you present that convey that you have reached true adulthood. People respond to how you carry yourself. So, be confident but not conceited. Be humble but not dismissive.

4. Mistakes are a-okay

This is a lesson I keep learning again and again. Mistakes, as cringe-worthy as they are, are not the end of the world even as an adult. Growing up is a messy process and there is no final grade or evaluation to worry about failing. So, go out and don't be afraid to make mistakes, they are a part of life. In the words of John Green, "The test will last your entire life, and it will be comprised of the millions of decisions, that when taken together, make your life yours. And everything- EVERYTHING - will be on it"

5. There is no end to adulthood

Unlike your childhood, adulthood is seemingly endless. There are millions of types of adults at different places in life with different responsibilities. You may or may not feel like a true adult right now but as you get older your duties and role in life will change and expand. So, don't try to grow up too fast unless you really have to. Being a child is a luxury and you have your whole life to perfect the whole 'adulting' thing.

6. Everyone is a child at heart

Truthfully nobody asks to become an adult, it is just something that happens. Adulthood is liberating and exciting but is also a lot more complicated than being 'just a kid'. You will find that it is hard to outgrow things like being silly for no good reason and irresponsibly eating pounds of sugar. So do not be worried if you find yourself indulging in the simple pleasures of your childhood.

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