Congratulations, you got into college! Now, all you have to do is find the perfect roommate... or not.
Once you decide as to where you're going to college, you will more than likely join a Facebook page for your college's class. Within this group, it is not out of the usual to make a post describing yourself. Well, you see everyone's post is almost the exact same and looks a little like this...
“Hey everyone, I just committed and am looking for a roommate. I don't want to go random because Im afraid I'll get a complete weirdo. Im undeclared, don't really know what I'm doing with my life, but I do know I love partying and having a good time. Don't get me wrong though, I don't mind staying in some weekends (this is totally a lie). If you're interested in rooming, message me. Follow me on insta @WeWillProbablyNeverTalk."
Hopefully you can sense my sarcasm, but sadly most of it isn't. Pretty much everyone in the group claims they love partying but will stay in with their roommate for some lowkey nights. How are you expected to make a decision on if you want to room with someone based on the fact if they can chug beers and stay in and eat pizza with me once in awhile? Here's your answer: you can't. Personally, I chose my roommate. If you guessed over a Facebook post, you're right. I was 100% certain that I didn't want to do random and needed to find someone. Just like everyone else, I was terrified of having to room with someone that would kill me in my sleep.
Everyday I would wait to see the newest person that would post and decide if I wanted to message them or not. If I decided to, it was almost like speed dating. I would ask them a couple basic questions and if I was interested, I would get their snapchat so we didn't have to talk over Facebook. Eventually, I found the perfect roommate, or so I thought.
Long story short, my roommate and I didn't end up getting along and I moved out. I felt depressed. I felt as if I was being deprived of having the typical best friend roommate relationship I dreamed about. Most importantly, I thought about how I had no one to blame but myself, since I chose my roommate. I couldn't blame Res Life on pairing me with someone, because, well, I paired myself.
While going through this I talked to my friends, who mostly decided to go random. They pushed the idea onto me that they really wished I went random. Here are all of my friends having the best time of their life living in their forced triple with people Res Life decided to put them with. I started to question why I never did. No one at my school seems that weird, and I probably would have got along great with them.
Don't let your fear of the unknown stop you from making a great first choice towards your college career. I let my fear of living with someone I didn't know prior get the best of me. I wish I knew what I know now. Going random isn't all that bad, everyone I talked to who did absolutely loves their roommate.
Through all of this, I ended up getting that typical best friend roommate relationship. Even if you do choose to pick your roommate, and it doesn't work out, remember things will always work out in the end. Better options will come along, and it's your choice if you want to take advantage of them like I did.
So, if you're an incoming freshman and you're scrambling looking for a roommate for the same fears as I did, don't sweat it, and let Res Life take care of it. Because picking someone to share a 10x12 room with over a Facebook post is as ridiculous as it seems.