From The Girl In College Who's Not A "College Girl"

From The Girl In College Who's Not A "College Girl"

So, maybe I don't fit the stereotype, but I still belong.

Do you ever feel like you don't fit in with your age group? Or that mentally you don't fit in with where you're at in life? Well that is exactly how I feel.

This year I will be a junior in college. Don't get me wrong, I actually really enjoy school. I enjoy the academics and being able to finally focus on the subject that I am passionate about. I enjoy the freedom, the independence, and even the responsibility. But something is different for me than it must be for the every day "college girl."

Honestly when I think of a college girl I think of baggy t-shirts and Nike shorts, Starbucks, complaining about finals, sororities, Lilly Pulitzer, an obscene amount of the word "like" in their everyday vocabulary, and a large emphasis on checking Instagram and Snapchat. Why is it that I have this stereotypical view of what a college girl is like when none of this describes me, yet I am in fact a girl in college?

I still believe in dressing decent to go to class. I do like Starbucks, but you won't catch me drinking a sweet and sugar-overloaded frappe. I don't think anyone enjoys finals, but tweeting and posting on Instagram about it repeatedly seems counterproductive. I am not in a sorority. Lilly Pulitzer will never be in my closet. I try to refrain from using like after every word in an effort to seem intelligent. Social media...well I have those accounts but definitely not an obsession. So if I am a college girl, then why am I so different?

I know there must be more of you out there that do not fit this stereotype. Not that there is anything wrong with fitting it, I just know I can't be the only one who is different. In high school it at least seemed like there was a group for every type of person. Now, I feel like I'm the only one who hasn't fallen into the "college girl" group.

So here's to the girls that don't fit the stereotype. The girls who wear what they want, actually like school, and aren't afraid to be different. We are still college girls. Just our own brand. There's nothing wrong with not fitting in. College is where we were supposed to come and finally be able to be ourselves without ridicule. To focus on where we were going in life, with the people who were headed in the same direction. Just because you're not in a sorority doesn't mean you can't have friends. And just because you don't dress or act a certain way doesn't mean you don't belong.


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What It's Like To Take A Class With Professor Yuri Urbanovich

My experience taking a class with one of the best professors at UVA.

I have taken multiple classes with Professor Urbanovich during my time at UVA, and he is one of my favorite professors. Not only does he genuinely care about his students, but he also pushes them to learn more than humanly possible in the span of 50 minutes.

Seriously, I have learned more in his classes about Russian history and politics than I could have ever imagined. Professor Urbanovich’s thick Georgian accent and recalls of personal experiences also make his classes more personal, allowing students to understand the nation’s history and politics on a completely different level.

No wonder his classes fill up in a matter of hours when course registration begins!

The best part of Professor Urbanovich’s class is the many repeated quotes that one can uncover during his lectures. I am currently taking a J-term course with Professor Urbanovich and I have noticed that he says some things a lot throughout the course of his lectures, which makes them that much more interesting and fun.

If you’re interested in taking a course with Professor Urbanovich, which I highly recommend, be aware of the fact that Urbanovich will say the following things a lot.

1. My friends...

Professor Urbanovich does not refer to his students as “you guys” or “ my students,” but rather “my friends.” He often starts his lectures with “my friends,” making the class more intimate and welcoming. He welcomes various thoughts and opinions and treats his students in a way that makes it seem like you really are friends with the professor.

I have only taken two classes with him, but he always remembers who I am (a rare occurrence at a large university).

2. It is inconceivable

Professor Urbanovich often says that certain events or occurrences are “inconceivable”, and when he does, you know that the even matters a lot in terms of Russian history. It’s sort of like a marker for the things you should absolutely remember after any given lecture.

Earlier this week, one of his students quoted Urbanovich’s “inconceivable” phrase during a presentation, and the entire class, including the professor, started laughing. It just goes to show how welcoming and fun his classes can be.

3. I mean, can you imagine...

This is something along the lines of “inconceivable”, but it happens on rare occasions, usually when Professor Urbanovich is comparing the US to Russia and explaining how various events that occur in Russia would not be welcomed in the US or any other nation.

For example, the Pussy Riot fiasco that occurred in Russia was a stab at the religious values present in Russia, but we idolize it in the US. If something like this had happened in Israel or any other nation with strong religious values, we would most likely look at it in a different light. I mean, can you imagine…

4. I am so proud of you

Professor Urbanovich values education over number grades, often telling students that he is extremely proud of the work they’ve done and that they will go far in life. He does give exams, homework responses, and various projects, as any professor would, but he often makes students feel accomplished and successful after the completion of any assignment.

His comments on most essays are very constructive and provide guidance toward the development of better writing skills and the creation of more ambitious future projects.

5. Don't throw potatoes at my head

On the first day of my J-Term class, Professor Urbanovich compared our class to a large group of protestors as a joke, saying that we shouldn’t throw potatoes at his head if we did not agree with one of his statements.

Throughout the course of the past two weeks, he has repeated this phrase several times, especially during lectures that might have sparked opposition among students. Professor Urbanovich says this in a joking way of course, and it makes the class seem less intense than it is, almost as if we were not learning 1000+ years of Russian history in the span of 10 days.

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21 Things To Do On Your 21st Birthday

You’re officially legal! It’s time to celebrate!

You’ve been waiting for this day for, well, 21 years! It’s one of the biggest milestone birthdays there is to look forward to. You probably never thought you’d make it to this point, but now that the day is here, there’s so much to do!

1. Drink!

2. Go out to dinner.

3. Go to the Casino.

4. Go on a winery tour.

5. Drink!

6. See a movie.

7. Drink!

8. Eat wine-flavored ice-cream!

9. Buy something for yourself.

10. Scratch lottery tickets.

11. Drink!

12. Go bowling.

13. Throw a party.

14. Go on a cruise.

15. Drink!

16. Dance.

17. Drink!

18. Go to a club with friends!

19. Celebrate with family.

20. Open presents.

21. Drink!

You’ve waited 21 years to legally have your first sip of alcohol, whether it be wine, beer or some fruity cocktail. The moral of this is it’s time to drink, so indulge yourself.

But drink responsibly!

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