Friendship Is A Two-Way Street

Friendship Is A Two-Way Street

"There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship." - Thomas Acquinas

Recently I was having a conversation with one of my best friends that I met at school and we were talking about friendship and the friends we made at college, including each other. Our friendship came out of nowhere, we really became friends after school had already ended for the year. She told me how much she loves the friendships that are so unexpected because they turn out to be the best. Then we began discussing our other friends we met at school and some of the problems we were having with them. My friend then said how true friends come into your life and never leave your side no matter what happens, how far you live from each other, or how busy your life is. True friends always make time for their friends.

That stuck with me for a while. It made me think. Then I saw one of the recent grads from my high school tweeted and said how he was really only friends with some people at school because he saw them five days a week. That kind of thing doesn’t stop once you graduate from high school, it happens in college too. It has definitely taken some time but I have come to realize which of my friends are true friends and which are friends with me because we go to school together.

Friendship is a two-way street. It shouldn’t be a job to maintain the friendship. The relationship should be kept alive by both people, one person shouldn’t be doing all of the work. One-sided friendships suck. I’m not one to give up on someone easily, but giving so much to someone and never having anything reciprocated, not even a thank you, it’s hard. I mean how hard is it to send a “How are you?” text every once in a while? Think about it. Think about how shitty it feels to tell someone you miss them and they don’t say they miss you back. Being the only one to try to maintain the friendship sucks and is exhausting.

I’m not one to give up, and I’m not one to expect others to do something for me. When I do something nice for one of my friends, it’s because I care about them and am just a giving person. I don’t do it so they will do something in return. I love having my friends talk to me about their problems and let me help solve them. I make sure my friends know that. But when I need them, where are they?

True friendship is something to cherish. You always see those people that have been best friends for years and years, and it seems so effortless. That is something to strive for. That type of friendship just looks happy. It’s like you know when something happens, they are the first person that they can’t wait to tell about it.

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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