Friendship Effort Should Always Be Equal
Start writing a post
Health and Wellness

Friendship Effort Should Always Be Equal

If you are trying harder than your friend, you may be in a toxic situation and should rethink it.

Friendship Effort Should Always Be Equal

We all have friends right? Well most of us at least. Sometimes, we may feel that we care more than our friends do, or even feel like we are always the ones putting in effort to hangout or simply talk on the phone. No one is perfect, people can't be there 24/7 with every single need you have. However, we should pay attention to how much we do for others versus how much they do for us. Not because we are looking to get something back, but to avoid toxic, one-sided interactions.

There have been a few times in my life where I had to face the hard truth of this matter. During my high school years, I loved to cater to people, making sure everyone was always happy. In some cases, I really didn't receive the same treatment in return. I was fine with that though... at the time. When I finally reached and completed my first year of college, I realized this wasn't necessarily a healthy thing for me. Sure, it's cool to be nice, and giving. But... at what price? Especially if no one bothers to ask how my day was, or initiate a simple hangout. At that point, I stopped using so much of my time worrying about others when they were not doing the same for me.

I'm aware that I'm walking a fine line between letting go of recognizing a one-sided situation and being that person who ALWAYS expects something in return. Think of it this way, some things you should do because you WANT to do it, not because you expect a favor. BUT, if you notice that it is always like this between you and your "friend", please, speak up about it. There is nothing wrong with expecting someone to give you the same treatment you effortlessly give out. Don't be an ass hole, don't be that person who only does favors because you expect to get something out of it. Instead, though, be aware of toxic traits from individuals that could harm you in the long run. Be caring, be nice, be patient; but don't be all these things plus more to someone before being them to yourself first.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

Hispanic Heritage Month

A lil history and a few thoughts.

Dianeliz Gonzalez

Hispanic Heritage month is here, and we are ready to celebrate!

Keep Reading... Show less

My September Faves

Here are some of my faves during the month of September


Keep Reading... Show less
Student Life

9 Things Tall People Are Tired Of Hearing

Yep. The weather is fine up here... I've totally never heard that before.


Don't get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE being tall. Sometimes I even wish I was taller. One of the downsides of being tall however, is having to put up with ridiculous questions and statements. I can assure that all tall people are tired of being asked what the weather is like "up here", but here are a few other things we don't want to hear anymore.

Keep Reading... Show less
Student Life

30 Signs You're From Wisconsin

When you say Wisconsin, you've said it all!


We truly love it here in the Badger State. Here are a few things Wisconsinites can relate to.

Keep Reading... Show less

Five Types Of People In Fall

From yummy pumpkin spice lattes to scary movies, fall has it all and then some.

Destination Logan County Illinois

Oh fall, the most marvelous time of year...right? Every approaches fall differently, some pumpkin spice-tastically and some not so enthusiastically. We can't all be Autumn lovers, so here are five types of people in fall. Grab a cup of hot coca, sit back, and enjoy.

Keep Reading... Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments