An Open Letter To The Friends I Haven't Met Yet

An Open Letter To The Friends I Haven't Met Yet

I'm constantly hearing people say that internet friends aren't 'real friends' unless you've met before, but that doesn't change how glad I am that you've come into my life.


One of the first things kids are told when they learn to use a computer is that they shouldn't talk to strangers on the internet. As you grow up, the threat of someone finding out personal information about you via computer seems to just disappear over time. Of course, you gain more common sense as you grow up and 15-year-old you aren't going to straight up tell someone your home address because you aren't stupid.

Sometimes these internet "strangers" end up being some of the best people in your life at the moment. They can be people just down the road in another city or town, or they can even be across the country. It doesn't matter how far they are, you bond over a common interest or experience. These are the people that you can talk to about that one thing that no one else really likes, or that nobody really knows enough about to have an in-depth conversation with you. These are people you become so close with that you can share any kind of meme, inside joke, story, or any other thing that you's share with any other friend.

This is a letter to those friends that I met not too long ago, but I feel like I've known for much longer. We live across the country from each other with just about a thousand miles between us (time zones are a pain), but it doesn't even seem like that far. We've bonded over a sport and a team and specific players, and we continue to find other things in common and introduce each other to new things every day. There are some of my favorite things now that I wouldn't know about if it weren't for you.

Thank you for introducing me to those various things. Thank you for coming into my life and changing the way I see certain things and thank you for giving me, a Texan, a place to talk about ice hockey, one of the most unpopular sports in my home state. I know I might not talk to you all as much as I'd truly like to, as life sometimes gets in the way, but just know that I'm so thankful for you.

Meeting a friend in real life or having not met them at all doesn't make a difference in how real friendship is. Friendship isn't based on how often people talk to each other or how far apart or close to each other people live, or how long they've known each other. Friendship is based on people deciding they wanted to be friends and then doing it. I am so glad we decided to be friends.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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To The Friends I Can Be Myself Around

An open letter to those whose friendships I value more than a pint of Graeter's ice cream.


There are those friends I love and care about deeply, but cannot be my true self around. Someone asked me before, "How can you call someone your friend if you can't be yourself around them?" I don't change myself to accommodate them or act in a manner unnatural to me — I just don't show them some sides of me. Growing up, some of my friends did not understand how I could ever want to write books or how I could love reading so much, so I learned at a young age to keep that side of me to myself. And yes, those are important parts of me, but my friends who did not understand it did accept it, and that was enough. Some thought it bizarre and humorous I love Celtic instrumental music or said some hurtful things about what I love that I realize now wasn't okay. But at the end of the day, there is love between us and common ground where I just remember to not mention some things.

Then there are those friends I can be my complete, unapologetic, authentic self with. The ones who support and encourage you to chase your dreams, even if they don't understand them. The ones who you can cry to about something silly, say whatever is on your mind without regretting it, and who thinks it's preposterous you refuse to fart in their presence because your other friends would give you crap for it (pun intended, and also true story). The ones you stay up late into the night talking about philosophy and crushes until your voices begin to rasp. The ones who are the closest to your heart.

I want to say thank you to these brilliant, caring, beautiful friends, new and old. Your love and support has helped me at all times, through the good and the bad and the boring. I only hope to be the same friend to you, to be open-minded, supportive, and enthusiastic. I believe it is important to cultivate a wide range of friends and support, but many of the friendships I mention earlier will most likely only be kept alive through memories; ours will last many lives to come. I look forward to growing old with you all and growing together.

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