After months or even years of going through a constant flow of relationships, it's a very strange feeling when you find yourself alone.
To the girl who hasn't been single since she was 15, its been a long time coming. You have somehow successfully made it through some of the most pivotal moments of your life while holding on to a significant other. You grew up learning how to love. You grew up learning how to care for another person’s problems instead of just your own. You’ve met so many boys and so many family members and the stories you've written have helped each relationship shape you into the woman you've become. You, the pretty girl, the friend who is always in a relationship, the girl who is so lucky to have such a guy like that, the girl who doesn't know how to be alone.
One of the biggest down sides of always being in a relationship is that when the time comes for you to be alone, you don't even remember how to function. How are you supposed to live without someone always holding your hand while you walk to class? How do you live without those constant text messages that were as simple as your significant other asking how your day has been? How do you live when you've gotten so used to sleeping next to someone every single night and then suddenly, without warning, they've been ripped from your bedsheets and thrown themselves into the arms of another?
For the girl that hasn't been single in a while, I know how hard it is to be you. You spend your days wondering how this happened. You wonder why it's been so difficult for you to find a new relationship. You wonder how all your exes have bounced back so quickly and have found a new person to love and you, the girl who’s never single, sits lonely at home every night. You can sit up for hours and overthink each relationship you've had and curse the new girls who now get to hold the man you molded so strategically into the person you knew he could be, but none of that changes the fact that you're alone.
For the girl who hasn't been single in a while, maybe the reason you're single now is because you've forgotten how to love yourself. Maybe you have spent so much time focusing on loving another person and making them feel special, that you forgot how to make yourself feel special. You have always had that other person in your life to tell you how amazing you are. Someone was always there rooting for you, telling you that you can do it, and that you'll make it through whatever problems you are experiencing. So what happens now that you've forgotten how to root for yourself? You've forgotten how to tell yourself that you can make it through. What next?
To the girl who hasn't been single in a while, you now must learn to love again, and I do not mean another person. You have to learn to be your own cheerleader. You have to learn to push yourself to get out of bed; no one is going to do it for you. You have to remind yourself everyday when you look in the mirror that you are beautiful and a man does not need to tell you that to make it a true statement. Right now, you find yourself in a place of loneliness for the first time in a long time; take this time alone and learn to enjoy it. Enjoy your friends, enjoy having no one to argue with over stupid things, enjoy being able to sprawl your entire body across the bed without anyone complaining, enjoy your body because it's beautiful no matter what (single people are known to be more fit anyway: EMBRACE THAT, get fit), and most importantly, enjoy the fact that in this alone time, you are finally going to stand alone and find out who you truly are.
