Why It's Good To Do One Thing A Day That Scares You

Why It's Good To Do One Thing A Day That Scares You

Take risks.

I've always loved the saying, "Do one thing a day that scares you." Why? Because I think that's so vital, especially for our own wellbeing. I love to challenge myself and sometimes, it's good to push past your own boundaries and get out of your comfort zone.

If you are going to participate in this challenge, do it on your own terms. Something that "scares you" can vary from talking to a person you have a crush on to going out to dinner by yourself, to trying a new food dish. What scares you could be something normal that others do on a daily basis or don't find those things to be a challenge, so don't think that you have to live by their standards. Your fears are just that, they are YOURS.

Getting out of your comfort zone is terrifying, yes, but you are looking fear in the face and telling it that YOU have control. Your comfort zone is like a little box that you've placed yourself in. It's safe and familiar, but nothing really changes — Nothing new really happens. Taking risks and getting past your fears is where you find yourself and where you find life.

If you were to play the hardest game and know very well that you'll probably lose, would you still do it? Some of you may answer no, but to those of you who say yes, you're probably realizing that it's the challenge and taking that risk that makes you grow stronger. You know there's a high chance that you'd lose, but you still try anyway because you never know what may happen.

I don't want to have a boring life. I want to live a life where I can say, "Yes, I did something today that scared me and made me uncomfortable, but I did it and I'm stronger from it." So, make that leap, you never know where those risks might lead you.

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Re-evaluating Your Decisions

It's time to take a step back and reflect on what matters

For a few months, I have been absent from writing on the Odyssey but have finally decided to end my hiatus. This past semester has thrown a lot of curve balls my way and I have changed my mind more than I ever have before. I usually describe myself as a "safety net" type of person. If my life does not have structure, I tend to shut down. Many difficult choices came my way and I had to choose what was worth sacrificing. This forced me to reflect the fact that life is unexpected and sometimes it is okay to take a pause to assess your situation. I felt as though I was loosing who I was as a person. Things that used to make me happy started to stress me out. Yet, time heals all wounds and I surely, but slowly am grounding myself again.

One valuable lesson I have learned during this chaotic journey is to take the days as they come. Of course it helps to plan ahead, but we cannot always be certain that there is a future. Additionally, never take your talents for granted. Even when your self worth is diminished, stay hopeful that the best is yet to come.

When all hell breaks loose, emerge yourself in hobbies you are passionate about and spend time with positive people. All of these things can take your gray days and make them shine brighter. Just repeat to yourself that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes our seemingly small plans fall into a greater scheme. No matter how wonky life gets, even so crazy it feels like a bad joke: Keep. Pushing. Forward. You are not a quitter, you are a fighter. Ultimately, you will learn what true strength is. It resides in each and every one of us, without a doubt.

So thank you to my friends and family that always believed and had faith in both me and my abilities. Thank you to theatre for giving me a stage to break away and be someone else for a change. Thank you to sunsets for allowing me a blank canvas each day. Lastly, thank you Odyssey for giving me an outlet to express my grief and hardships. Without this darkness that occur, I would have never been able to see the brightness all around me. I am getting back on track with my life and am more determined than ever to be superior. Also, I am done holding back and staying quite when I was meant to be bold. I am worth expressing myself and no part of me is worth staying a secret.

"It's being here now that's important. There's no past and there's no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever, is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can't relive it; and we can hope for the future but we don't know if there is one." -George Harrison

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Stop Listening To What Others Say About Sex, Just Make Your Decision And Stick With It

Honestly, there isn't even a "right" or "wrong" time to have sex anymore.

Today's culture is different from any other. The influences around us are numerous, from fashion trends to music, the reality stars, and the explosion of social media, among many other things. One thing that has been directly affected is the way we view sexuality.

The daily debate on social media, group chats, and news always seem to be a topic of heated conversations.

When should you start having sex?

Is it really that bad to wait until marriage before having intercourse? Is there a right answer, or not? Let's dive into this topic a little bit.

There is no denying that it seems like everyone is having sex. From middle-aged kids to adults, sex seems to have become a trend, even though it's been around forever. Sexual interaction has obvious consequences and they're all being brought to light. You're seeing high rates of pregnancy. STDs, unfortunately, are being passed around because of the lack of safety during sex. The social aspect is especially magnified thanks to the speed at which news travels. Celebrities' personal lives are being brought to light and have led us, the fans, to debate about what happened and what the outcome should be?

Sex is natural. Most people in their adolescent years will experiment with it, some with different partners. However, not everyone has a crazy desire to engage in sexual activity with just anyone, because they want to wait until marriage. It's completely fine to feel that way, and it's actually applauded when it comes to having sex.

But again, most people will experiment with sex simply because it's in our nature. Should they be judged differently? Should we frown upon waiting until we're married to "knock the boots"?

To put it simply, there is a slightly negative perception to those who have sex regularly, meaning it's more of a hobby.

It's easy to look at them and jump to conclusions. Likewise, we tease and ridicule the kids who wait, calling them things like "scary". Who's to say promiscuity is better than a monogamous relationship in terms of sex. That's like saying person A who has a wife/husband is better than person B who exhausts her resources and explores their sexual boundaries. It's not true, but again not everyone accepts these views and that's okay.

I think what people are worried about the most is their image.

Everyone wants to be viewed in a positive way by their peers and the outside world. Even the most introverted people would like to be seen as positive people. It's a shame in our society that there is a double standard when it comes to judging the willingness people have to have sex. Men aren't looked down upon as women are for the same things.

Women are put down and viewed in a negative light if they have multiple sex partners. However, we promote men who have multiple sex partners without hesitation. It's unfair and contributes heavily to the debate on whether you should wait to have sex or explore what's out there.

Some girls may actually want to engage in sexual activities with a guy, but she's afraid of the consequences.

She wouldn't want to compromise her morals, and she doesn't want to be the topic of conversation amongst her peers because of it.

She doesn't even know if the guy is worth it.

Guys face a similar dilemma despite what many people think. In a similar situation, a guy can be ridiculed and in a way looked at differently if he has multiple sex partners. Your maturity comes into question, women spread your name around, you become the same thing to all women--that's negative.

If you're comfortable with your decision regarding your sexual decisions, that's all that matters.

Each one has its consequences, but it's your body and your life. I would say in any situation, be safe and make good decisions. That's all we can hope for these days. Don't judge by what you see, judge by what you know. Everyone has their own opinion. Sex is right when you determine it's right for you.

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