We have all dated the guy with the mom that just can’t let go, and we know that we can never be “good enough” for their son. So, when you see her, you dress proper, turn on the fake smile and suck up like you’ve never done before because I mean, this guy could be the one, right?

If this isn’t one of the most difficult predicaments, I don’t know what is. You meet a guy that you really like, and possibly part of that initial liking is because they are a momma’s boy, but that initial thought fades quite quickly. You think: Wow, it’s an anomaly to find a guy that cares about family nowadays. You think: Wow, maybe him putting his mom on a pedestal means that he will care for me in the same way. Well, I hate to break it to you ladies, this is not the case.

Although it may mean you have found one of the good guys, which usually it does, it also means that you will be in a tug-of-war battle with his mom for the entirety of your relationship. Sometimes, you may even feel as if your boyfriend's mom wants to sabotage your relationship (because it can make you this crazy). I have had the mom that simply dislikes me for no reason, the mom that simply doesn't want her son to grow up, and even the mom that wishes to live with her son forever. So basically, I've been through the ringer. It is a situation like no other, because to put it frankly, you can’t just tell your boyfriend to cut the cord with their mother. Not only is it not your place to say something, even though it may really and I mean really, feel as if it is your place—trust me, it’s not. Your man will always resent you for it, and his mom will dislike you even more.

So, the question remains: What do you do? Well, coming from someone that has consecutively dated momma’s boys, you do the only thing you can do, wait patiently. You stay grateful that your man truly is one of the “good guys.” You realize that he is worth the constant headache of having to feel second to his mother. And the truth is: You aren’t second to his mother, it’s all in your head, which is why he keeps listening to you banter about being second to his mother. In time, his mother will begin to see that you are special for putting up with her pain in the a** of the son and that all will be OK. She will be grateful that you are the one cooking for him and cleaning his dirty clothes. So breath my fellow momma's boy companions, it does get better.