Heartbroken. That word has such a negative connotation, don't you think? Often times it's hard to see the good in being heartbroken, and it's usually difficult to understand why this had to happen to you. Though right now the skies seem cloudy, and your world is gray, I promise you will find sunshine again. You may have to work hard to intentionally bring that sunshine about, but after a while, you will begin to see the good in being heartbroken, and why you can be thankful that you went through what seemed like was the worst experience of your life.
Here are a few reasons why you can be thankful, in case you can't see those right now:
1. Now you have a chance to figure out your own identity.
So many times when you're in a relationship, you lose who you are without that person in your life. It's so important that when we enter into new relationships, we stay true to ourselves, and that we don't allow ourselves to be defined by that relationship. Now, you have a chance to recreate yourself. A whole new you that isn't defined by someone else. When the right person comes along, you won't have to lose your sense of individuality, because they will only enhance who you are as a person.
2. Say hello to girlfriend time!
Okay, girls, let's be honest. When we enter into a relationship with a guy, it's so easy for us to forsake our friendships with our very best friends because we're so focused on that relationship. We've all done it. Maybe you've even been the friend left in the dust. But, now that your relationship has ended, you will have the opportunity to spend the quality time you've been missing with your girlfriends. Learn from your mistake of leaving those friendships for a guy, and next time you're in a relationship, work harder to maintain them.
3. You can pursue your own interests.
If you love to shop, and your ex didn't, GOOD NEWS. You don't have to worry about what he likes anymore. Go do what you want to do and do it proudly!
4. Now you have time to reflect on who you are while in a relationship.
A lot of times it's easy to blame the failed relationship on your ex, but nobody's perfect, so I'm sure you messed up too. Take this time to think about what you could have done better, some things you shouldn't have said, and promise yourself to be better for your next relationship.
5. You have a lot more time to spend with Jesus.
Why is it that when we enter into a new relationship with a guy that our relationship with Jesus takes the back seat? I'm completely convinced that the right guy for you is going to push you to become closer to Jesus, and not lead you astray. Take this time, when you're absolutely heartbroken, to lean into Jesus. Read His word, pray, and seek out what He has to say to you and about you. He loves you, He is for you, and His plans are always good. Soak up as much as you can about His character, and ask Him to heal your broken heart. He will turn your brokenness into something beautiful if you let Him.
