College is supposed to be the best four years of your life, right? But why do our minds become so determined to find that “perfect someone” to cuddle with and watch endless marathons on Netflix with? Why do we try so hard to find that person to take a perfect photo with that will get 100 likes on Instagram (#relationshipgoals)?
I’m not saying it’s bad or frowned upon to be in a relationship in college, but if you’re not in one, that's perfectly fine too. I am single and there are multiple reasons why I value my single relationship status on Facebook and why being without a significant other isn't the worst thing that has even happened to me... or anyone else.
1. Keep doing you.
Instead of focusing on another person, you can pay attention to yourself. Embrace yourself and the qualities you have. When you show that you’re not interested in a relationship, you are much more appealing to others because you’re not trying hard to get their attention. You are being yourself and when you take a step back, you’re able to see who’s right for you and what qualities you seem to enjoy in that future significant other.
2. Creating your own brand image.
Instead of being called ______’s girlfriend/boyfriend, you can create who you are when you’re single. You could be known as the guy who dresses well or the girl who excels in her schoolwork and her social life. You’re able to discover new hobbies and personalities that you click with. You may even create new goals that you want to achieve. Building your self-esteem and confidence will tell you that you are independent and capable.
3. Having more friendships.
When you’re single, you’re free to hang out with whomever. You’re able to build new connections and re-establish old ones. While in college, you build many friendships. From your first year there to your last year there, your friend’s list on Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram significantly increase. You can even use this time in college to snap photos of yourselves on Instagram and tag it with #squadgoals.
4. Zero questions are asked.
Let’s face it. When you’re in a relationship and you decide to go out with your friends, you’re going to be interrogated before you pre-depart. Who are you going out with? Is _______ going to be there? What time are you coming back? These are just some of the common questions that are asked. But you shouldn't have to deal with all this nagging. Go out and have fun with your friends. The only question you should be answering is “Where are we going for margaritas?”
5. Personal Growth
You don’t need anyone (maybe besides your parents), to criticize or comment on things you do that’ll make you second-guess yourself. You’re in college and you can make your own decisions. Sometimes you won’t be proud of them, but at least, you know that you made this decision on your own. Allow yourself to grow and look at not only your weaknesses but your strengths. All through college, you'll be learning not only from the textbooks but from your own personal experiences.
