5 Things I Would Tell My Freshman Self

5 Things I Would Tell My Freshman Self

Just some pieces of advice I hold dear to my heart now that would have helped me my first year of high school.


Freshman year of high school is always a different experience for everyone, but at the same time, we all have things we wanted to change. Personally, freshman year was the worst year of high school for me because of events that took place. Now, as a senior in high school, I can look back and see things I wish I had known then. I would have saved myself a great deal of mental pain, but in the end, I am the person today because of what I went through. Here are five pieces of advice I would give my freshman self.

1. Nobody is going to remember this bad hair day.


I remember all through freshman year always worried that everyone was going to remember how my hair looked awful on that one Tuesday or how my outfit was so mismatched on that one Friday. One bad moment or day doesn't constitute a bad life, and that is advice I could have really used during my freshman year. Every little thing that wasn't perfect made me just want to quit.

2. The only opinion about you that matters is your own.


Every little interaction I had during my freshman year was being internally analyzed because I wanted to have the "perfect" reputation. I was so afraid that people would talk about me behind my back, or think I was a bad person. The truth is I shouldn't have wasted my time wondering what people said or thought of me. If I knew myself and loved myself for who I was, there was no other opinion that could have ever outweighed or held more importance to my own.

3. Go to events and have fun, even if your friends aren't there.


I missed out on SO many exciting events because I was too afraid to go on my own. If my best friends weren't going to be there, the chance of me being there was slim. Now, in my senior year of high school, I have really put myself out there and attended events although my friends weren't going to be there. Just writing here on this platform is out of my comfort zone, but I am so glad I have taken this opportunity.

4. Your self-care and mental health should not be pushed to the side.


My freshman year had a lot of ups and downs. In the fall right before Thanksgiving, I lost the most important man in my life, my grandfather. He was more like my father since my biological father hadn't been in my life since I was much younger. My grandpa, or "Pops" as I called him, was the first person I had ever lost in my life, and to say I took it hard would be an understatement. The rest of freshman year is pretty much a blur since I was in such a deep depression. Amid this, I pushed my own mental health to the side, and my self-care was practically nonexistent. Looking back now, I could have prevented some mental things I am still getting over today, and physically, I would feel a lot better. No matter what happens in your life, you must look after yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.

5. Things do get better. Trust me.


Only three months after losing my grandpa, I lost my great grandmother, whom I shared a love for the piano with. These two deaths of close loved ones wounded me mentally for sure. I withdrew from my family, friends, and activities. I am still getting over these deaths now in my senior year. Knowing what I know now, I would have possibly gotten through the rough patch a little easier. Even though everything was crazy, and I just wanted it to end, things have substantially gotten better. I am now more involved in activities and more present in my family and with my friends.

These few pieces of advice would have helped me in my freshman year of high school, and they may just help you in whatever grade you are in, in both high school and college. Learn from my mistakes, and remember that although you make mistakes, you can always learn from them and grow as an individual.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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The Power Of Journaling

Slowing down in a fast pace world.


In a world where everything is moving so fast pace, I have found comfort in taking small moments to reflect on the blurring images around me. I have always loved to journal, but recently I have found a system that works very well for me.

One habit that I have newly formed is creating a section in my journal that I like to call "Get Out of My Head." Life moves very fast and sometimes my thoughts can't keep up. This causes stress, anxiety, sadness and even the feeling of loneliness. I have created this section in my journal to be a safe place where I can just scribble down whatever is taking over my head, but there is a trick.

Like I stated previously, I have always loved to journal, but I never found ultimate comfort in it because I would go back and read what I wanted to remove from my mind. This was causing me to reexperience what I didn't want to. I highly suggest having a place in your journal that is essentially a flame for all th4e thoughts you want to rid of.

On the contrary, have a section in your journal where you love to look. I try and fill this section with happy thoughts, quotes, verses, and gratitude. This makes journaling and reading your entries something to look forward to, rather than not.

In conclusion, journaling is unique for everyone and it takes some time to figure out exactly the right way. But once you discover the safe place that journaling can be, it can change your life forever.

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