5 Things I Would Tell My Freshman Self

5 Things I Would Tell My Freshman Self

Just some pieces of advice I hold dear to my heart now that would have helped me my first year of high school.


Freshman year of high school is always a different experience for everyone, but at the same time, we all have things we wanted to change. Personally, freshman year was the worst year of high school for me because of events that took place. Now, as a senior in high school, I can look back and see things I wish I had known then. I would have saved myself a great deal of mental pain, but in the end, I am the person today because of what I went through. Here are five pieces of advice I would give my freshman self.

1. Nobody is going to remember this bad hair day.


I remember all through freshman year always worried that everyone was going to remember how my hair looked awful on that one Tuesday or how my outfit was so mismatched on that one Friday. One bad moment or day doesn't constitute a bad life, and that is advice I could have really used during my freshman year. Every little thing that wasn't perfect made me just want to quit.

2. The only opinion about you that matters is your own.


Every little interaction I had during my freshman year was being internally analyzed because I wanted to have the "perfect" reputation. I was so afraid that people would talk about me behind my back, or think I was a bad person. The truth is I shouldn't have wasted my time wondering what people said or thought of me. If I knew myself and loved myself for who I was, there was no other opinion that could have ever outweighed or held more importance to my own.

3. Go to events and have fun, even if your friends aren't there.


I missed out on SO many exciting events because I was too afraid to go on my own. If my best friends weren't going to be there, the chance of me being there was slim. Now, in my senior year of high school, I have really put myself out there and attended events although my friends weren't going to be there. Just writing here on this platform is out of my comfort zone, but I am so glad I have taken this opportunity.

4. Your self-care and mental health should not be pushed to the side.


My freshman year had a lot of ups and downs. In the fall right before Thanksgiving, I lost the most important man in my life, my grandfather. He was more like my father since my biological father hadn't been in my life since I was much younger. My grandpa, or "Pops" as I called him, was the first person I had ever lost in my life, and to say I took it hard would be an understatement. The rest of freshman year is pretty much a blur since I was in such a deep depression. Amid this, I pushed my own mental health to the side, and my self-care was practically nonexistent. Looking back now, I could have prevented some mental things I am still getting over today, and physically, I would feel a lot better. No matter what happens in your life, you must look after yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.

5. Things do get better. Trust me.


Only three months after losing my grandpa, I lost my great grandmother, whom I shared a love for the piano with. These two deaths of close loved ones wounded me mentally for sure. I withdrew from my family, friends, and activities. I am still getting over these deaths now in my senior year. Knowing what I know now, I would have possibly gotten through the rough patch a little easier. Even though everything was crazy, and I just wanted it to end, things have substantially gotten better. I am now more involved in activities and more present in my family and with my friends.

These few pieces of advice would have helped me in my freshman year of high school, and they may just help you in whatever grade you are in, in both high school and college. Learn from my mistakes, and remember that although you make mistakes, you can always learn from them and grow as an individual.

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Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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Everyone tells you to prepare for the best years of your life.

They tell you to prepare for all of the new challenges and new opportunities.

They say that you will meet your future people in college.

What they don't tell you is how much it will hurt.

Seeing old friends disappear because you are no longer home.

Watching your grades fall because the class is too difficult to pass.

Hearing and witnessing your family struggle and you aren't able to be with them.

Seeing all of the adventures that others are going on while you are stuck in your dorm room with the same stack of papers you have been trying to finish for three days now.

They don't tell you how difficult the transition will be.

They especially don't tell you how hard it is to live with someone.

The best of friends can live together and then grow to hate each other.

Complete strangers will move in and never speak.

You'll find friends that are simply just your "writing friend" or "band friend".

Many of the labels from high school can sometimes stick around.

If you're not out drinking or clubbing, then people think you don't have a life.

College is great, but don't think that it will be easy.

You have to make things easy in order for things to happen.

You can't just go around doing whatever and expect things to work out.

It takes time and it takes commitment to succeed in life, and in college.

The best way to deal with it all, find someone!

Find someone that you can get coffee with and watch sports with.

Find someone to eat dinner and lunch with.

Find someone to study religion and math before the next test.

Find someone!

Find your someone, a friend or someone special, to help you make it through everything that life throws at you.

If I had that someone I might have been better off my first year.


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