In the world of dating, many people say don't date because you need to date. Date because you want to date but still be your own person. These pieces of advice I adhere to very well, however sometimes it feels like I do them a little too well. When you're super independent and you're trying to date, it may feel like you have come to a brick wall.
1. You're sometimes hesitant to accept gifts or romantic gestures.
Okay, do not get me wrong. I love sweet gifts from anyone. However, when a boy attempts to woo me over with a gift or an overtly romantic gesture I find myself somewhat turned off. It's not by the fact that the guy did something sweet for me but by the fact I can't do something as nice in return.
2. When you have established what makes you comfortable and they want to go do other things.
For me, I have come to the point in life that I don't enjoy going out like I used to. I'd rather sit back at my apartment or my girlfriends' apartments and just drink some wine. Whereas many a guy I know would rather go down a couple buckets of bud lights out at a bar. To even meet guys anymore, going out is the answer but the process of doing so often feels like a waste of time.
3. Feeling like you are narrow-minded because you want to do what you enjoy.
It is okay to be about yourself and the things you want/ However the issue I and so many others run into is not wanting to break out of your shell to do things that your significant other might enjoy. This often leads to petty arguments and even the ending of relationships.
4. Trusting anyone. At all.
You've probably become independent for a couple of reasons. You grew up doing things for yourself, you probably just want to guard your heart and your well being, or you might be taking your time to date. Trust is a huge commitment that many people are uncertain of accepting. When you're more independent you tend to trust a small group of people along with yourself with your secrets.
5. Feeling like your sense of independence is a turnoff to them.
Being independent is a quality that I am proud to possess. I feel as if I have more control of the things going on in my life and having my own purpose. However, I want to be viewed as an equal and as my own person. Does that mean forgo all romantic gestures and ignore the sweet things? Nah. It means that I don't need those things to be complete. I am complete on my own.
But here's the thing guys, we still want to be pursued. However, we are still focused on being our own person. Just remember that romance is special but trying to make a girl lose herself in it is something that you can't do to independent women.
