You met the guy of your dreams—you started as friends and then created a bond. You shared laughs, supported each other through the good and the bad, made big plans for your futures together and made lots of unforgettable memories. You thought he was the one that you were going to spend the rest of your life with. Then all of a sudden something changes. Feelings get blurred, lines get crossed and words are said out of anger. You changed the person you were to fit the mold of the person your significant other wanted you to be. While finding true love, you lost your uniqueness. When things are said and done and you two are no more, he takes more than he came with. He takes your heart, your happiness and the person you were before you met him. When he is gone, you feel lost and broken. You feel that you have no meaning and that you’re not good enough for anyone. You have lost yourself in the process of loving someone else. You try to remember what being alone and loving yourself feels like, but all you feel is empty and not good enough. Someone once said that it is easy to be torn apart by feelings you don’t understand.
Happiness is a choice you have to make for yourself. You have to wake up every morning look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you're good enough, you are beautiful, you matter and there is no one who is going to love you more than yourself. You have to find what made you unique, the dreams you have for yourself and the little quirks that made him fall for you in the first place. One day it will get easier; one day you won’t think about him every second; one day you will stop seeing his big blue eyes, brown hair and crooked smile staring at you in your dreams; one day you will stop checking his social media accounts, stop looking at the old pictures or delete them all together; and one day you will realize that you may be broken but by learning to love yourself it will make it easier for someone else to love you just as much or maybe even more. One day you will grow without even knowing you have. One day you are going to meet someone new that is going to love you for the person you are now and not what you once were.
Love is never easy and often comes at great cost and the relationships that seem the strongest are the most tragically torn apart. So here to making the right decisions for all the right reasons. You may be lost and broken now, but one day you won’t be.
