When The Universe Is Telling You To Keep Going, You Should Probably Keep Going

When The Universe Is Telling You To Keep Going, You Should Probably Keep Going

Although I might not be comfortable at the fraternity or as outgoing, everyone eventually finds their place and just needs to smile.


I had arrived just in time. Any earlier, I would have joined them and walked together. Any later, I wouldn't have heard what they were about to say. However, that particular night at that particular time, while walking casually behind them, I heard them uttering my name followed by the phrase spoken in a negative tone: "She's crazy."

I was shocked to hear my name. I just happened to be in the right place at the right time.

And, as soon as I entered the frame, the whole scene silenced and filled with an awkward atmosphere, confirming they were talking about me. The girls who were talking about me seemed nice. From the moment I met them at the first rush events, they seemed like the nicest and friendliest girls I've ever met. But, after hearing my name, I felt a tingle in my heart and a mix of emotions. Confusion, sadness, and fear filled my mind for the remainder of that night, hoping that I misinterpreted the situation.
The next day, there was another rush event for the fraternity.

After contemplating for the whole day, I was indecisive whether or not I wanted to go. Those girls were ultimately going to be there. If I did decide to go, I would go with no regrets and finish what I started. However, that meant I could be subjected to more judgment or ridicule. If I didn't, I would spend my whole life regretting cowardly running away and not committing to the promise I made myself to get involved in Rutgers.

Nevertheless, unable to absorb what I heard the night before and just feeling hurt, I was resolute to not go to that last rush event. I never wanted to see those girls again at that point in time. But, I knew that I should... At least, the universe also hinted I should. And, little hints throughout that day leading up to the rush event seemed to compel me to go. While sitting in Statistics class, I was convinced I would not attend the rush event. For the last 30 minutes of class, my statistics teacher was so adamant on connecting to the class asked about everyone's favorite movie quote.

My professor uttered, "I am responsible for myself, but not responsible for what other people say about me." Feeling this quote directly related to my situation, I realized the universe seemed to be directly speaking to me.

My professor then followed up with his second favorite quote: "Everything will be OK in the end. If it's not OK, it's not the end" by John Lennon.

Feeling empowered and reminded that one's self-worth is determined by oneself, the words the girls uttered the night before held less weight. My professor was right. It was not OK because it was not the end. And so, that night I was able to live with no regrets and end the last rush event I will ever go to in my life.

And, like I guessed it. I did not get invited to join the fraternity. Whoopie! However, I'm glad I tried my best and remained true to my promise. And, I probably wouldn't have enjoyed an environment, where I would feel not welcome or come out of my shell enough. Ultimately, I am not fit for the fraternity lifestyle and do not have the personality type to be outgoing enough.

And, although I felt somewhat down due to the rejection, the universe again seemed to send me more signs. A couple of days ago, I saw the glimpse of blue coming up from the car floor. I picked up the pin from the car floor reading "You Will Be Found." Ironically, I had lost that pin a couple of weeks ago, and I did "find it." It was a pin with the song title of the Broadway show "Dear Evan Hansen."

Understanding the musical focused on an introverted boy, who realizes that everyone has a voice and would find his place in life through his friends and family, comforted me. Although I might not be comfortable at the fraternity or as outgoing, everyone eventually finds their place and just needs to smile.

The weirdest things happen when you just sit down and just follow the flow of things. Essentially, I just needed to breathe. Although things aren't completely OK right now because I still kinda bummed because of the rejection, I have a funny feeling the universe is nudging me that it's not the end. Things will get better.

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!

After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

Check them out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvUCbnwzySKgbKiB_...

14. Some activities on my bucket list are...

This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

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20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...

What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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In The Chaos of Summer, Don't Forget To Stop And Smell The Flowers

And remember, vitamin D is more important than that assignment you're stressed about.


I have only finished three weeks of summer and I am stressed. Who let me work 40 hours a week and take 2 summer classes? Apparently optimistic April Emma was feeling like a superwoman. Now, don't get me wrong, I love my job. I love working 40 hours and doing what I absolutely love. The classes? Not so much. Those are the reason I cannot sleep at night and have oddly been at peace with turning assignments in late. Side note: when did summers become stressful instead of a break? Is this what it finally means to be an adult?

However, with all of these things (well okay, only 3 but it feels like a lot), I have been learning that it is extremely important to stop and take some time for yourself.

What does that look like? Sometimes, you just have to sleep. Take an L and try again tomorrow. Or, go for a nature walk. Or, watch that one episode of your favorite tv show that's been on Hulu for weeks and you're super behind because of your schedule. Or, try a new workout class. You can also practice some mindful meditation or try painting a picture that sparks joy. There are so many things. The most important part is that you enjoy them.

I don't think that we should ever become too busy where we forget about ourselves. I've found myself doing that lately, and I need to learn how to let myself have some downtime. And you know what that's actually going to look like? I'm going to spend some mega time with Jesus. It's been a hot minute because of life, but at the end of the day, He's more important than a math class.

Summer 2019, you might be stressing me out to the max, but I'm going to take my summer back one period of downtime at a time.

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