There Is Beauty To Losing Yourself And Finding Your Way Back

There Is Beauty To Losing Yourself And Finding Your Way Back

If you're feeling lost too, here is how I found myself.

For weeks I have been feeling like I was walking in the body of a stranger. I was still me but living my life in a way I hated. I wasn't organized, focused, compassionate or self-loving. Many days I asked myself, "Who am I?"

I find that a lot of my problems are solved through conversation. I don't even have to talk about my issues exactly. I could be talking to a stranger and have this "ah-ha" moment. Mine came a few days ago when I shared dinner with an acquaintance.

We talked about missing the summer time. We were happier, more focused, days seemed easier. I thought about this after dinner trying to figure out if the season was the problem, or if it was just me? Because even this time last year, I didn't feel lost.

I decided to walk through everything that was a part of my routine and bring that back in my life now.

1. Self-care Sundays

Every Sunday, I would wash and condition my hair, shave my body, and do a face mask. It was a great start to a busy week and made me feel beautiful and at peace.

2. Working out

I was in the gym three or four days every week and it made me feel great! I was always so proud of myself when I left and it really boosted my confidence.

3. Daily selfie

Yes, as vain as it sounds I had a mini photoshoot every day. I would put time into my outfit and makeup so I needed to document the results. This also helped me to boost my confidence and for some odd reason, I could be more focused knowing I looked great.

4. Used my phone wisely

I wasn't necessarily on my phone less but I spent less time on my phone doing nothing. If I was on my phone, I was keeping up with my orgs, checking my email, putting things in my calendar, and reading up on news. Now, I spend too much time on Twitter. And I love Twitter but I shouldn't let it take over my life.

5. Meditation

Meditating and my overall spirituality were the main things that centered me. Lately, it has been a lot harder to put it into my schedule, but I know that when I do, I will have lasting results.

6. Journaling

I think getting your thoughts down on paper is a tried and true way to stay centered and really get to know yourself and see how you are progressing in life. I used to do this at least 3 times a week. More as my weeks got stressful.

Getting back to the old but better me is going to be the biggest task of 2018. I have to make sure to keep up my daily and weekly routines and hold myself accountable. If you are struggling to get back a new and improved version of yourself, look back to how you were at your highest. What did you do? Do some things need to be added or taken away? Write or type them out as I did and keep working at it.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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PSA: Self Care Is More Than Face Masks And Bubble Baths

It's actually taking care of yourself.


When you think of self-care, you probably think of all those posts on Instagram and Pinterest of a girl sitting in a bathtub reading a book. And while that's great sometimes, that's not exactly self-care. Self-care is more than that.

First off, self-care is taking care of your mental health. If you were up late last night studying for a test, it's OK to say no to going out with friends the next day. Sometimes, it's more important to take care of yourself instead of trying to do it all. I know, I get FOMO too. But, we have to understand that taking care of ourselves should be our first priority. You never want to overdo it. This is probably the most important thing to remember, that it is 100% okay to say no.

Another thing that is a big part of self-care is letting it all out. Whether that be journaling or just venting to a friend, it's important to never keep all your emotions bottled up. As far as journaling goes, there's no right way to do it. Just spill all your emotions onto paper and you'll feel a lot better, trust me. If something is bothering you, write it down or tell a friend what's going on. If you keep to yourself, everything will eventually become too much that you just lose it.

Remember to stay positive. Tell yourself positive affirmations each day. Telling yourself things as simple as "I am beautiful" or "I got this" can really be a great reminder. Look up positivity quotes and read a few, listen to an uplifting song, or read a chapter of a book that makes you feel good. All of these things are small ways that can help your mental health.

Surround yourself with people that make you feel good. If you're around people who bring you down, that's not going to help you in any way. Spend time with people that are good for your mental health. But, also remember to take time alone.

It's important to always be mindful of yourself. Self-care is important, and taking care of your mental health is the most important aspect of it. While face masks and bubble baths can be fun and relaxing, always make sure you take time to check up on your mental health as well. That's what self-care TRULY is.

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